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no buddy I have been discussing this over and over again with him. His personality is different from me. I am very planned and plan what to do in the next year or so while he has the approcah “lets see what happens” in almost everthing..and that stresses me out!
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I fear his sister. She hasnt treated me nice. In front of him, she is nice. and otherwise she is rude and misbehaved a lot with me. She made me feel insecure and alone.
I want to remain close to my family and get support when needed
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wauw nice…it made me so happy reading ur story:) pray for me too
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who created sister in law...if i had a say in making this world id definitely out law sis in laws...they are all nothing but conniving witches arent they...well not really some of mine are pretty cool....let me give you a hint on how to handle sis in laws...
1) dont make yourself seem inferior to them if you do than they will walk all over you
2) if they are mean to you...stop them right on their track and say excuse me "who the hell do you think you are , a princess or something...and ofcourse she will have to agree with your statement since she is not a princess she has no right to talk to you this way
3) just ignore their pettiness and appologize...pretend that you were at fault even though you werent...that will really get em confuse and leave you alone in the future... seriously that really worked in my case
4) dont ever complain to your husband about his little princess of a sister...he will never believe you, so just keep your mouth shut and pretend she doesnt exist...i have many more ideas, in future if you need any just consult me
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[FONT="]Pick ur battles.
compromise between work, original family and p[personal aims, is just as much of a hard thing for women as it is for men.
unfortunately, through, the social acceptance, and in fact expectation of adaptation is only trusted on women.
and u are a brave person, trying to manage the various aspects of ur personal aims as a career woman, as having ur own say about what u want to do and where, so be polite, yet firm an sincere in saying this to ur fiancé', take him into ur confidence and see what happens.
one thing that marriage teaches is patience and trust.
undoubtedly, the mutual regard and consultation in marriage is suppopsed to make the lover grow fonder and realign both party's aims as a natural outcome of their union of 2 people are one, with perhaps differing views and ideals and visions, as one also.
be an optimist.
give it a sincere shot.
I had an agreement with my fiancee that we will move to my country after the first half year of our marriage. So I could renew my contract here and travel back and forth between him and my country in that period. So I go on and start applying within the company I work for and get a good offer but unfortunately my future boss could compromise with letting me work remote for many days in a row so I had to turn the offer down after a lot of effort.
So my fiancee suggests that I can apply for work in his country and I go like " we'll move back to my country later, right?" and he is like"we'll see...it depends on how you feel about being away from your family after the long period"
And I get stunned. Cuz I thought we had an agreement/understanding that we will move after those months. I made it very clear to him that I will move to his country cuz of his family situation but since that wont be relevant after some period, then we can move to my country. Now he goes like soche gein....what is that about?and where is the credibility?bande to ek baat karni chahye aur ussi par qaym rehna chahye!!!!
Or do u think I am being childish???
I feel like I am going back to the depressed state of mind. It took me forever to get out of it and his promise to move was one very important factor in me feeling better.
Do u think I am immature?
I know that girls have to give up a lot in our culture but I am really feeling miserable right now, crying, that just the fact that we are women, we are expected to give up our family, career, freinds and network. It is just not fair!!!
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sara did i say something wrong...you look awfully mad dear...ok sorry i take my words back...i wont outlaw sis in laws and yes they are not witches they are darling little princess...happy now? now smile.
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would you not want to be with your sister(a woman) if she was getting a divorce? I know I would. But I know how to put people in their place too if they ever misbehave. Don't be a coward, you will meet rude people everywhere. Learn to deal with them!
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She doesn't happen to be your sis in law by any chance does she? You are apologizing to her in an effort to leave her confused. ;)
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Chamelie, I see life as an adventure. You never know what could happen and what is possible. It's good to keep your options open and have some faith. I know it may be hard but sometimes change is good.
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I want to remain close to my family and get support when needed
chameli how do you deal with her? my husband's sister is just like that is nasty to me when he's not around but in front of him shes extra sweet...i hate it coz i cant say anything to my hubby about her and the situation just drives me mad coz everyone thinks she is such a great person but they just dont know what she is really like and how she is towards me.
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I think the problem isn't the actual request to move and to give up everything, but rather that you guys made a decision, and now you feel that he is going back on his word.
The decisions need to be made together, and you almost definitely need to be flexible. You probably need to decide together what you would like to do ideally and what circumstances would lead to your changing your plans. What are your priorities? Talk it over.
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blush:
Not all of em are bad.. :halo:
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hahah asif very clever…i thought only women were clever 
hey thx sara you look so much prettier when you are smiling. Yes not all of them, but most of them are baaaaaaad.
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devoted, just for you i shall invent a magic wand which will not only make nasty ppl dissapear to a very cold distant planet, but will also hook them all in one big cold house....now wouldnt that be the best justice.