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at least the "behaya angels" know how to spell and communicate coherently
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Yes he is a engineer and just got promoted at his job.... With a lot of facilities... My problem is not that I don't like Pakistan. I just want to be able to have career of my own and that is not possible in pakistan cuz in pakistan nursing is not a respectable career and here in USA it is one of most respected and good paid profession.
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I just want to be able to have career of my own and that is **not possible in pakistan cuz in pakistan nursing is not a respectable career **and
That's understandable, and I don't think that's an outrageous thing to want. but I've never heard that it's not a respectable career......although when I think about it, I don't now any nurses in pak....
how did u come to this conclusion?
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No he is not my cousin or any kind relative ... I was not pressured in marry him.
If you two want different things from life and want to lead different lifestyles, it is best not to pursue the marriage.
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Lead the way, Baji Beelzebub. 
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That's understandable, and I don't think that's an outrageous thing to want. but I've never heard that it's not a respectable career......although when I think about it, I don't now any nurses in pak.... ** **how did u come to this conclusion?
Some ppl (not me) think that because they do the 'unpleasant' jobs in hospitals..
Nurses are very respected here in the UK..
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That's understandable, and I don't think that's an outrageous thing to want. but I've never heard that it's not a respectable career......although when I think about it, I don't now any nurses in pak....
how did u come to this conclusion?
I don't know how true this is but talking to my relatives/friends in pakistan, it seems that nurses have the reputation of having "loose character". Nursing tends to have the "skanky" reputation by people in the US too (shows always depict them as hotties that sleep around with married doctors, etc) so I think it might just be a magnification of that. I've been told by some people that "oh you're pretty just become a nurse"...as a backhanded compliment when I explain I'm pursuing medicine.
I mean, in general from what I understand after talking to my cousins who work there, Pakistani society is slowly starting to accept women in the workplace. So that could also have a lot to do with it. Who knows.
Yes he is a engineer and just got promoted at his job.... With a lot of facilities... My problem is not that I don't like Pakistan. I just want to be able to have career of my own and that is not possible in pakistan cuz in pakistan nursing is not a respectable career and here in USA it is one of most respected and good paid profession.
I think that's a valid concern given that you've spent time pursuing a career. Have you discussed this issue with him and what does he say?
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I think you need to be straight forward with him that you are not going to move back to Pakistan. If he has long term plans to live in Pakistan, then you and your family needs to reconsider this marriage. None of us hate Pakistan but it is a very different life style. Only go ahead with this marriage if you are wholeheartedly committed to that lifestyle, if you have any doubts, then rethink your decision.
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what you do is have the nikkah via skype. Have the shadi via skype aswell. Caaast effective *fob accent and soon enough youll have little skype children running around the............internet (cant use house)
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That excatly what I did and I told him to think about and let me know if he want to still go for the marriage or end it here, gave him time to think let see what happens
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That's understandable, and I don't think that's an outrageous thing to want. but I've never heard that it's not a respectable career......although when I think about it, I don't now any nurses in pak....
how did u come to this conclusion?
Nurses in pak dont get paid much like in USA.
My sister's friend is a nurse in Karachi and she get 15 000 rupees a month , where in USA the pay is much high, although I am not sure how much they get paid in USA.
To OP, if you are not pressurized by parents to marry him then why don't you discuss it with your parents and let him and his parents know that you don't want to live in Pakistan after getting maaried.
Better solve this thing now.
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Regardless of what your reason is for not wanting to move back like others said it needs to be discussed before you two get married. That way you two can make an informed choice.
Yea, I haven't heard good things about being a nurse in Pakistan. It's known as a lowly job and I guess not highly paid either. I know in Canada nurses get paid somewhere around $30/hr at the start of their career.
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here is USA a RN gets paid around $43/hr starting. i have discussed it with him let see what happen will keep u guys posted and thx so much for the responses.. i know it sound silly but just discussing it with all of u guys made me
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Divorce him so you can lead a happy fulfilling life in the land of plenty 
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I think you need to get your parents to speak to his parents about this :/
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I think you need to chill and move to Pakistan (or wherever your husband is) like all girls do.
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there will be problem for you after marriage if you don´t finish or discuss this matter now.
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I think you need to chill and move to Pakistan (or wherever your husband is) like all girls do.
Everyone has their preference. Plenty of girls move across the world to go where their husbands are and there is nothing wrong with that. But if OP doesn't want to move then it should be made clear before they get married.
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Seems like its a big issue for you??? If thats the case, whatever you do, you can not leave it to decide after marriage. You need to address this before marriage.
Personally, I am for no (or minimum) conditions, if & buts and term for marriage. Jitni "negotiations" hoteen hain marriage say pehley, utna hi people do not get into it with open heart and mind.
Marriage is not the name of "whats better for me after marriage" but its the name of "whats better for us after marriage". This should always be in your mind.