tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?

[Sehrysh]

Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?

@Paheli00

:k: True. Telling him the amount does equal access to the money.

OP can continue to refuse to share how much she has which will continue to make her husband resentful and will lead to arguments. If she tells him how much she makes but refuses to grant him access, that will also lead to resentment on his part/arguments. Neither option contributes to making this marriage healthy. So this is really a matter of choosing the option OP views as the lesser of evils.

I agree in part. Here’s the thing - if OP is preparing to leave her husband, then absolutely she shouldn’t share her income. But if she’s going to put forth a good faith effort to make the marriage work, keeping her income a “secret” seems like she’s not making a good faith effort and she’s hiding things from him and is a reason for disagreement.

You would hope that the couple can between them have a reasonable discussion and make mutually beneficial decisions - if that’s not possible, then ending the relationship is the better option.