tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?

[Theorist]

Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?

@Iconoclast

This cuts off the who feminist theory about gender equality at its knees, doesn’t it. The traditional gender roles are still strong. No one will be questioning the abilities of stay at home spouse if genders in this situation were reversed.

I guess an attorney can better advise you on how to save your assets in case of divorce. However, I will just give another perspective. When I was married, I was an intern, and only making a small amount of money. My wife was going to Pakistan and she wanted to deposit the gift money in the bank, while we were short of time. I told her to leave it and I will deposit it. She said, she is worried I might spend it, I felt bad about the comment, but anyhow, said, Ok fine, and did it before she went. Al Hamdulillah, in few months I had started to make a handsome amount. Thirteen years on, I still have not forgotten that comment, though I have never mentioned it to her. I wonder what she will think, if she knows I still remember that single sentence.

Being a breadwinner is important for a man. I know a few men, who after loosing their jobs during recession, divorced, left the house and moved out. They just could not face their families as failures. I know thats bit extreme, but it does happen.

This too unfortunately is the result of how we impose gender roles. It doesn’t have to be that way. I despise double standards. I’d worry just as much any man would upon losing my job, I don’t know what I would do if I couldn’t provide for the family. That is my source of pride as well. It has nothing to do with gender roles. I chose to be this way. I just don’t understand gender roles. I don’t agree why it’s looked down upon if a man wants to be a stay at home dad. It is still about equality and not gender roles.