tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?

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Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?

@PyariCgudia

I agree that maybe in your situation, being direct may backfire, because it will just cause a fight and more tension. But at least it draws the line and forces him to respect you. Just like you explained your frustrations here, I don’t see why you can’t, on a weekend off, discuss these issues with him. A flat out “You’re not using this income to play the stock market, because that’s very risky and it makes me uncomfortable” is sufficient. If he starts pulling the your money and my money deal, point out how he has 10K in a separate account that you have no access to. And furthermore, I’d build my own 10K separate nest egg account if I were you, and I’d be open about it.

When I’ve spoken to prospects I make one thing clear, including people from abroad.

1. My money is not at your disposal to play with. I retain the right to take away that income from your hands if you start playing risky with it.
2. Any financial decisions require both our consent, if I say no, then no is no. Unless you can make a solid argument for why you need the money and how you’re gonna use it.
3. I will be scrutinizing the hell out of you to see whether you have any financial sense. Have him interviewed by every successful man in your family. You get interviewed about your biryani cooking skills, it’s only fair to put the guy in the griller too.
4. I will be keeping a nest egg account on the side under my parents name - they will get X number of dollars each month and that will be my insurance that if you screw me over, I have some financial back-up plan.

A guy who has even 1% of a problem with the above? Move on.

I simply told the guy that I am his responsibility… LOL