Then you my dear, are not in a real marriage. Keeping it real is the only thing that makes a marriage work.
I just don’t understand why you are still married to this guy. You are upset with your husband for not working, using you for your money, disrespecting you by meaningless threats yet you choose to stay with him. I think you’re justified in feeling this way based on what you’ve written but I just fail to understand why you still continue to be married to him? Are you seriously comfortable with spending the rest of your life like this?
P.s. and I assume you meant tactful as opposed to tackful. Tackful reminded me of thumbtacks.