Re: Tehleel e Nafsi
No it doesn’t mean you end yourself…it’s your ego that you have to end.
I don’t say you can get exposed to first stage, rather you have to put all your efforts to reach the first step. Love of God is to willing to give up everything for God, then the love of the Prophet(saw) and the masters. So if you love God you must love his creation and love them more than you love yourself…if you can do this you have already reached the first stage.
Second stage is Hudurullah, and last one is the one you mentioned in the start. I don’t know much about these two except only Awliya have reached them.