Thanks for your concern Muzna.
If you really want to see something postive in me then advise me, How to deal with denial, I CANNOT hear “NO”, I CANNOT stand OBJECTION.The moment I hear something against me or my plans the evil inside me gets high.I become devil, I forget everthing, who is opposing me, halla haram, literally everything.
I am normally a happy guy, who loves to help others, just a very ordinary guy.
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^ perhaps you should start a new thread to seek advice from the rest on this matter.
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Thanks for your concern Muzna.
If you really want to see something postive in me then advise me, How to deal with denial, I CANNOT hear "NO", I CANNOT stand OBJECTION.The moment I hear something against me or my plans the evil inside me gets high.I become devil, I forget everthing, who is opposing me, halla haram, literally everything. I am normally a happy guy, who loves to help others, just a very ordinary guy.
Its called being spoiled. People who cannot cope with denial or can't hear NO are spoiled because no one says no to them. They never learn how to deal with others' opinions or choices or POV. Whatever they say goes and anyone in opposition gets to deal with their wrath because all they see is RED. Anyway, you have to grow up, get mature, take some responsibility, start working and learn to work with all of this insaniyat around you. If you don't you lose friends and sever relationships because its cute in kids but not cute in adults.
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Its called being spoiled. People who cannot cope with denial or can't hear NO are spoiled because no one says no to them. They never learn how to deal with others' opinions or choices or POV. Whatever they say goes and anyone in opposition gets to deal with their wrath because all they see is RED. Anyway, you have to grow up, get mature, take some responsibility, start working and learn to work with all of this insaniyat around you. If you don't you lose friends and sever relationships because its cute in kids but not cute in adults.
yes, pretty much..being spoiled. It's ok to get upset when not getting what you want..but instead of getting angry, get productive: learn what YOU need to do in order to get it for yourself. And learn that sometimes what you want may not actually be the best thing there is out there for you. Basically, learn to reflect on things a bit. That's life, sometimes things work out, sometimes they dont, sometimes people will help you, sometimes they will not and you will have to be the one to figure out what can be done.
"No"
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Nobody can teach you how to handle rejection, you have to teach yourself. And in this situation it all boils down to life experience.
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^ I agree with the first part of your post.....but disagree with the second.
Life experience can be anything......but if you make up your mind to change something about yourself, you can.
The first step, as in every other case, is recognizing that there is something you want to change.......the next and more important part is making up your mind to do something about it.
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find out the reason behind the NO . this will help you
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session is on!!
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I don't know if AF knows that this thread exists.
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what makes you say that muzna?
i think the most productive way would be to get counselling for this if it is having a negative impact on your life like that. agreed with most here.
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say what?
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There’s nothing wrong with being spoiled as a kid but it should just be a stage.
I know 
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Thanks alot Muzna, Reha and everybody for your responses.
My problem is not materialistic things,Sometimes I get irritated on simple questions, like when my mum ask, Kahan Ja Rahay Ho.
My another annoying habit is I dont answer my cell, let it ring, 1,2,3..10,15 without any reason, Even foriegn calls, cousins calls, dad or who ever.If I feel the need to know why were somebody calling, I get back to them after 10min, hour, 2 hour or maybe after few days.
I am a calm and quite person and have good analytical skill, as far as I think my problem is I cant keep myself limited, I ahve severe problem with authority.
I am coping hard to be realistic and reasonable, trying to be gregarius and nice towards people who dont agree with my mentality or how I approach things.
It will definately take some time and real hard work but hopefully I will get over it.InshAllah.
Ek aur problem I just dont get why the people who are on Gs are not in real life or atleast not in social circle.I wonder what do they eat to keep their veiw of point so postive.
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Thanks alot Muzna, Reha and everybody for your responses.
My problem is not materialistic things,Sometimes I get irritated on simple questions, like when my mum ask, Kahan Ja Rahay Ho. My another annoying habit is I dont answer my cell, let it ring, 1,2,3..10,15 without any reason, Even foriegn calls, cousins calls, dad or who ever.If I feel the need to know why were somebody calling, I get back to them after 10min, hour, 2 hour or maybe after few days. I am a calm and quite person and have good analytical skill, as far as I think my problem is I cant keep myself limited, I ahve severe problem with authority.
Mera bhi yahi haal hota hai....kabhi kabhi....
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^ Join the gentlemen's club.
:)
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Thanks alot Muzna, Reha and everybody for your responses.
I am coping hard to be realistic and reasonable, trying to be gregarius and nice towards people who dont agree with my mentality or how I approach things.
It will definately take some time and real hard work but hopefully I will get over it.InshAllah.
Ek aur problem I just dont get why the people who are on Gs are not in real life or atleast not in social circle.I wonder what do they eat to keep their veiw of point so postive.
i think u need to join Pakistan army or Chartered Accountant Firm for articleship they will make u seedha ................. lols
seriously i would advise you to go on for say roza (3 days) with tableeghi jammat and with the help of allah u will develop patience and get many other things. it will also improve ur communication skill when u will have to talk to many stranger ppl just for the sake of allah.
plus the "fear of allah" is most powerful thing that can stop you to take the wrong course. try to develop it in urself.
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Thanks alot Muzna, Reha and everybody for your responses.
My problem is not materialistic things,Sometimes I get irritated on simple questions, like when my mum ask, Kahan Ja Rahay Ho. My another annoying habit is I dont answer my cell, let it ring, 1,2,3..10,15 without any reason, Even foriegn calls, cousins calls, dad or who ever.If I feel the need to know why were somebody calling, I get back to them after 10min, hour, 2 hour or maybe after few days. I am a calm and quite person and have good analytical skill, as far as I think my problem is I cant keep myself limited, I ahve severe problem with authority.
I am coping hard to be realistic and reasonable, trying to be gregarius and nice towards people who dont agree with my mentality or how I approach things.
It will definately take some time and real hard work but hopefully I will get over it.InshAllah.
Ek aur problem I just dont get why the people who are on Gs are not in real life or atleast not in social circle.I wonder what do they eat to keep their veiw of point so postive.
I never meant that in a materialistic way...you're spoiled. You don't feel the need to answer to anyone for anything. You don't recognize authority and being held accountable is not something you're used to. That's what I see here. You need to learn humility which makes a person understand they're not above anyone. Respect for fellow human beings which would make you understand that everyone is your equal - not just in theory but in reality. And if your mom asks you where you're going - you simply answer.
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I think behaving in this way makes u believe ur 'free' and makes you feel more empowered (lack of a better word) and in control of what ever ur doing.The decision not to call ur dad back isn't taking a stand so take a stand on things you really need/want to rather then finding these immature outlets.
Today it's ur mum tomorrow it may be ur wife and even ur kids will ask when r u going to come home. It's the simplest form of showing concern, you need to understand that before anything else.
What you do with the people who opposes you? :0 I bet you are short tempered person as well am i right? You get very very angry over little things? Like probably you will be angry on me right now because i called you short tempered? 
P.s. you sound like my father