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^Well, well, well...
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I didn't need any female relative to tell me, nor did I wonder before my discovery that 'oh shak why don't women fast?!' nor do I remember myself asking awkward questions but I think guys, well I did anyway, know when we get to 14ish why women don't fast or pray or whatever at which point I didn't ask as I knew the reason. Sometimes it comes out accidently 'how's your fast going' or 'are you okay why are you not fasting' but I usually realize it mid-sentence as to why they aren't fasting and I change the topic.
Simple.
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Dude, why are you sorry, if people know how they raise their kids, then why are they asking questions here.
It is because I don't want to sound offensive or mean or rude. I don't really mind apologizing if anyone takes it the wrong way.
I think its just that most of the women here don't realize that guys know and that you don't necessarily have to lay everything out for them to understand this.
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I don’t know what goes on in the UK, but hubby definitely didn’t know that women don’t pray fast during that time. I mean, he barely understood menstruation. 
My poor innocent hubby. :halo:
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Nothing goes in the UK 
I mean erm we sort of knew by reading biology and what not and I also knew it as I had spent a year and two in an Islamic school here and we did come across it and hence it was obvious.
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Sex ed classes in grade 9 pretty m uch tell you everything you need to know. Namaz thing you can pretty much connect the dots unless you're really thick
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I second that. Hubby come from a family of 3 boys and his mom always hid everything. So till this day - he REALLY doesn’t get it.
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Am I the only one here who actually had a conversation with her younger brother when he was 12? Me being 14 at that time. My mom was furious at me. No doubt about that though. It made it for easier for her & for the other sisters to follow.
There is nothing wrong. Guys are supposed to know why we aren't fasting or praying. For most girls/women it does not only come down to not fasting or praying. I know girls are are too sick to even eat or drink anything their first two days & then I know older brothers who have yelled at their sisters at the top of their lungs for not going to Quran class. Ignorant as they were being 21 years old. Its the mother's fault & sisters too I think. Its something that should come across naturally & shouldn't be felt awkward.
It makes everyone's lives easier that way. Men should know what girls go through so they can be more understanding towards their wives when they get married or even colleagues for that matter.
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Forget talking to sons, my mom didn’t even prepare me for it Got a shock when I got my period 
I’m gonna make sure I talk to my kids and prepare them before age 12.
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Similar experience. Being too shy and conservative for whatever reason is not good either. To this day it kinda pisses me off that why was this such a thing to be shy or ashamed of…grrrr…dunno
I agree with the straightforward approach, no need to get into details, just state the fact and move on.
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hey, it happens!
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The Namaz thing is written clearly in Quran, the biology of mensturation is in grade 10-12 books.
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Am I the only one here who actually had a conversation with her younger brother when he was 12? Me being 14 at that time. My mom was furious at me. No doubt about that though. It made it for easier for her & for the other sisters to follow.
There is nothing wrong. Guys are supposed to know why we aren't fasting or praying. For most girls/women it does not only come down to not fasting or praying. I know girls are are too sick to even eat or drink anything their first two days & then I know older brothers who have yelled at their sisters at the top of their lungs for not going to Quran class. Ignorant as they were being 21 years old. Its the mother's fault & sisters too I think. Its something that should come across naturally & shouldn't be felt awkward.
It makes everyone's lives easier that way. Men should know what girls go through so they can be more understanding towards their wives when they get married or even colleagues for that matter.
Agreed. I actually had the talk with my 13 years old cousin recently. My aunt was too shy to have the talk with him. I dont get it....its a part of women's biology. its the reason they can have kids. what's to hide??
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^ true that. Its us who decide what's awkward & what's not. Its a natural thing that happens. Islamically you don't pray or fast & that's it. I am not a fan of how in many Desi households this is considered such a hush hush thing. Makes it hell for the women in that house.
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I always sorta knew... Because I had access to the internet from a very young age maybe...
Anyways, I'm VERY close to my Mom and very frank, but I just can't imagine having this type of a discussion with her.
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I don’t have boys so I don’t have to worry 
, I’ve already told my daughter a partial story because she kept asking why I get to miss rozas every year and dad doesn’t “oh the poor thing and all” 
. And also beceause she saw some TV ad and made some connections. I told her Allah mia gave women a week off because they don’t feel well. She’s like OK 
but that’s enough for a 7 year old .
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Mine neither, tho to be fair I was only 9 so maybe she would have done as I got a little older..
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OK, so one person here said that when they were having their periods, they went for classes and talks, but didn't pray. So the injunction is not against stepping foot into a masjid when you're having your period (which sounds kinda Hindu to me), but rather a woman may not pray to God while she is menstruating?
So did Allah sorta set women up to be second class Muslims? I mean, she cannot pray to Him during 1/4 of most of her life?
Am I misunderstanding this?
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Am I the only one here who actually had a conversation with her younger brother when he was 12? Me being 14 at that time. My mom was furious at me. No doubt about that though. It made it for easier for her & for the other sisters to follow.
There is nothing wrong. Guys are supposed to know why we aren't fasting or praying. For most girls/women it does not only come down to not fasting or praying. I know girls are are too sick to even eat or drink anything their first two days & then I know older brothers who have yelled at their sisters at the top of their lungs for not going to Quran class. Ignorant as they were being 21 years old. Its the mother's fault & sisters too I think. Its something that should come across naturally & shouldn't be felt awkward.
It makes everyone's lives easier that way. Men should know what girls go through so they can be more understanding towards their wives when they get married or even colleagues for that matter.
Lol me too. My younger brother knew about periods from being taught in school at about the same age so when I wasn't fasting I told him why and explained everything to him. It made my life a lot easier and I think it's important that they know and understand these things properly.
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OK, so one person here said that when they were having their periods, they went for classes and talks, but didn't pray. So the injunction is not against stepping foot into a masjid when you're having your period (which sounds kinda Hindu to me), but rather a woman may not pray to God while she is menstruating?
So did Allah sorta set women up to be second class Muslims? I mean, she cannot pray to Him during 1/4 of most of her life?
Am I misunderstanding this?
if u r having periods u should not go to Makkah and Madinah but i think u can go to other mosques and just listen to tilawah. u can do tasbeeh and zikr, even u can read surahs but not touch Quran or pray or fast. ppl even do hajj in periods. well it doesn't mean we become second class muslims its just nobody who is not clean can do these things. even a man if after intercourse or discharge(without intercourse ) doesn't take ghusl can't pray or fast or go to mosque.