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My son asked me a few days ago why some days I don't fast , he 16 BTW so has had lessons about this at school but he didn't know about the namaz and fasting thing. I just told him that when a woman has her monthly cycle she can not fats or pray and he was like ...oh.
I think it is better to be straight forward with children on such matters, there is no point in hiding and lyeing just be honest.
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I'm a bit offended here with your post. let me tell you why, the pain or cramps we go through because of this so called disgusting thing, the pain we go through while giving birth because of this disgusting thing, the hardship we face to keep up with our missing fast because of this disgusting thing sure makes you vomit and makes you more like a man but it's how we are made and I would never change it for a world. Smell or no smell!!
im sorry.. but im a woman and it IS disgusting to see used pads with blood on them lying around. the poster is not saying its disgusting that his wife gets a period.. but seeing used pads lying around .. its not exactly a cute sight. in pakistan arabia they get disposable bags you can fold and put the used pad in... its not the case in western countries.. i too put used pads in a small plastic bag and then throw it in the bin in the washroom so that my bros who may want to use the bin to toss out used floss or tissues dont have to come across the sickening sight of a used up pad
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hmmm i don't know but telling them mom is not praying/fasting coz she's sick means u can let go prayers whenever u r tired or lil bit sick. of course they can see u moving around and doing chores so they know u r not that much sick. i however did tell my older one "there are certain day's in a woman's life when she's not allowed to pray or fast by Allah" he said Ok and then next prayer he said" ab aap bhi namaz parh lo" :) he's 14 now. may be a dad should do it :)
I think this is the perfect thing to say - if the kid does ask why and they're old enough then I would tell them.
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im sorry.. but im a woman and it IS disgusting to see used pads with blood on them lying around. the poster is not saying its disgusting that his wife gets a period.. but seeing used pads lying around .. its not exactly a cute sight. in pakistan arabia they get disposable bags you can fold and put the used pad in... its not the case in western countries.. i too put used pads in a small plastic bag and then throw it in the bin in the washroom so that my bros who may want to use the bin to toss out used floss or tissues dont have to come across the sickening sight of a used up pad
thanks for clarifying. there is nothing bad about a woman having periods.
take it as if I stink and my wife asks me to take shower daily, I must do it.
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GOD !!! Neverrrrrr ....
I would like to kill my self before having this conversation with my mom ...
just try to be a bit more careful DAM
never saw my mom or sis ever eating
UNDERSTAND If he is old enough he would Know you don need to tell em ne thing if he is asking questions he is still too young END OF STORY
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im sorry.. but im a woman and it IS disgusting to see used pads with blood on them lying around. the poster is not saying its disgusting that his wife gets a period.. but seeing used pads lying around .. its not exactly a cute sight. in pakistan arabia they get disposable bags you can fold and put the used pad in... its not the case in western countries.. i too put used pads in a small plastic bag and then throw it in the bin in the washroom so that my bros who may want to use the bin to toss out used floss or tissues dont have to come across the sickening sight of a used up pad
I'm sure his wife was not decorating the table with the used pads anyways, she must has been extra cautious but the husband is picky. Anyways, I dont wanna hear anything about it anymore. I'm outa this thread .. Peace :) Thanks
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I'm sure his wife was not decorating the table with the used pads anyways, she must has been extra cautious but the husband is picky. Anyways, I dont wanna hear anything about it anymore. I'm outa this thread .. Peace :) Thanks
I think you are allergic to men!
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^ I don't think so.. hehe
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No need to talk to them, they will learn in their texts and their Islamic readings.
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yeah.... I could never tell my son such thing if i had one.... Jus dont eat infront ov em n jus tellin u r nt wel iz enuff
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LIsten to the male posters and please have mercy. You think its awkward for you to talk to them, you have absoloutely no idea how awkward it is for guys specially boys that are growing up. Just say that you're sick and can not pray because of that and most 14-16 year olds would know from that. If they don't then ask your husband to tell them that the women won't be praying because they are not feeling well. Trust me when I say this ... but it is super awkward
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I know it's awkward but choosing the right words would help them understand. I think 12-14 is a good age. I wouldn't bring it up but if they questioned "why" I would give them a straight answer.
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LIsten to the male posters and please have mercy. You think its awkward for you to talk to them, you have absoloutely no idea how awkward it is for guys specially boys that are growing up. Just say that you're sick and can not pray because of that and most 14-16 year olds would know from that. If they don't then ask your husband to tell them that the women won't be praying because they are not feeling well. Trust me when I say this ... but it is super awkward
may be u were never close to ur mom. otherwise i don't see anything really awkward abt it unless u go into minute details. parents are teachers too and just like ur teachers at school teach u abt thing same goes for parents. but in our culture parents avoid certain topics.
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^ plus boys grow up to be husbands- if they have no idea whats going on, what're they gonna think happens to their wives? i don't see whats wrong with just responding to them honestly and straightforward-ly. its a natural thing that happens to every woman- its nothing to be ashamed of or feel awkward about. why create mystery/fuss over nothing?
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may be u were never close to ur mom. otherwise i don't see anything really awkward abt it unless u go into minute details. parents are teachers too and just like ur teachers at school teach u abt thing same goes for parents. but in our culture parents avoid certain topics.
I agree with you in that parents are teachers too and that parents should teach them about things. I agree with you but most of the guys aruond about that age already know what is going on. Trust me. You don't need to have a full fledge talk with them and just telling them that you are not well will probably do the job.
I agree with somegroovychick that it is a natural thing and happens to every woman and nothing wrong with it but it is just an awkward subject for most guys especially coming out of their mom and sisters.
As far as closeness to mom is concerned, I don't think it has anything to do with that. I think I am in many ways close to my mom but it is just that certain things are best left out of discussion since we are old enough to understand.
Lastly, I am in no way trying to tell anyone on how to raise their kids or any such thing and I apologize if it came out that way. I just wanted to give my opinion as a guy and how I would feel if someone such as my mom would try to have this conversation with me.
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^ fair enough!
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^ plus boys grow up to be husbands- if they have no idea whats going on, what're they gonna think happens to their wives?
Now this is funny, like, f mama doesnt tell it, boyz wont know.
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Lastly, I am in no way trying to tell anyone on how to raise their kids or any such thing and I apologize if it came out that way. I just wanted to give my opinion as a guy and how I would feel if someone such as my mom would try to have this conversation with me.
Dude, why are you sorry, if people know how they raise their kids, then why are they asking questions here.
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How embarrassing that the whole world has to know you're having your period! I remember Miss Manners commenting, when a young bride asked how she should respond when people would ask her if she was preggers yet, "One can hardly express the rudeness of inquiring after the contents of someone else's womb!..."
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Moreover, didn't Allah make the female system this way? So how can He say she is unclean and that her prayers are unworthy during this time?