talk like a pirate

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What if your husband asks you to talk in a heavy voice in front of other men (his friends and other na mehrams) because you have a seducing voice, what would be your reaction?

Serious answers please, this actually happened with a close friend.

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I would have a serious conversation with him about trust.

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Well I will just ignore his request ... he is just getting insecure that's it ....

if you already had a seducing voice ,what can you do - that's not your fault ..... presuming you arent making an extra effort to make it more seductive ..

and what's next , he is going to ask you to stop talking with all na-meharam , if you cant talk heavy ....

ejitt - one word in my dictionary !

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What sort of a conversation? Please state few points.

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What about the religious factor that comes in? What do you say in reply to that?

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then i will understand his concern and try to speak as less as possible in front of them. and even if I speak will try to give an intelligent answer, cuz it will portray strong side of my personality.

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Like this? :omg:

ermmm no. ¬¬

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religiously (islamically), she should speak in rude manner (heavy voice) in front of non-halal man.

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@STA: well said ...

Any woman is not allowed to dress/talk/act in a seductive way in front of non-mahram ..

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and non-halal man are the men she cannot slaughter and eat, right?

J/k aside, she can speak in her original voice in front of non-halal men. Non-halal men are those that are not halal for a woman and those are her brothers, father, sons and other close male relatives ...

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religious factor is about not making an extra effort ...

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maybe he should gag her when she’s in public, evil woman with seductive voice. :mad:

and sometimes in pvt too. maybe. idk..

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  1. Firstly, that trust is the cornerstone of a marriage. Trust is required and implicit in so many things you do - for instance when the husband goes to work and interacts with female colleagues, the wife trusts that he will remain loyal to her (and vice versa). You cannot monitor your spouse every minute of the day and keep track of every person he/she meets.
  2. Imposing restrictions on his wife will only make her bitter about the fact that he does not trust her. Also making her voice "non seductive" does not solve anything. Today he is concerned about her voice, tomorrow it may be the way she walks, then the way she dresses, and then the way she sneezes :DIf he is that suspicious, he will only find more and more things to worry about. Unless he starts having faith in her, nothing will be solved.
  3. Does he have a reason to not trust his wife? Why is he feeling insecure? Maybe she needs to be more vocal/demonstrative about her affection for him
  4. Is he uncomfortable about one of his friends in particular? If yes, what is the reason? Is it anything he said/did?
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c'mon mate - she might just have a fine voice - seductiveness is in your bloody brain .... not in any voice or gesture ....

put her and a biryani in front of a starved men - 99 % will go for food apart from 1 % - who may wants to have both :)

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I want to clarify my point of view. When i say non halal, it means na-mehram.

seductive thing is only for husband (mehram).

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LOL, that's just how you talk. And it can be a pain to maintain a fake/unnatural way of talking in front of others. It might even feel physically uncomfortable to place pressure on certain areas of your throat/mouth to talk in a "deeper voice." And what if you slip up and talk in your natural voice...then correct the "mistake" by reverting to the fake voice....that would just make you look foolish in front of others. It would make your husband look stupid too....it's embarrassing.....does he not care about that? Has he not thought of this consequence or is he only consumbed by that insecurity? What's next? Would he request that you change the way you walk, laugh, move, what have you ....so as not to attract others? Women may be attracted to him for things that he can't control....would he also implement changes? The wife needs to talk to him about his insecurity/trust issues.

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Ok. for the sake of argument I agree with your claim.

but all these instructions are not created by me. Prophet Muhamamd (pbuh) guided us to do so, therefore I wrote my understanding on the request of OP.

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that husband needs some psycho treatment (i am seroius this time :D)

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I've heard of crazy people like that, how does she live with him?
I think she should take him to an Islamic scholar, a proper one and not a crazy extremist one, and get him to explain to the husband that women are allowed to talk in their normal voice. If he still has a problem then he's not bothered about religion he's just a wacko in which case therapy may do him some good :)
Crazy extremist people do not quote and reply to me, I've had just about enough already.

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Fair enough.......then why do women have problem with guys staring other women??