do u know of any?? or have u experienced one??
what were the reasons for being unhappy and how are they surviving…??
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if u wanna avoid unhappy marriage get out of ur negativity, think positive, take more control of ur life, work ur best on ur new relationships n stay in touch with Allah to guide u better.
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Why do you want to talk about unhappy marriages LA? Why dont you want to look forward to a happy marriage?
What about all the wonderful things life has to offer?
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you are indeed lost. 
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coz im being pushed into a marriage that i dnt want...but they alll think its just in my head...but sometimes it becomes tooo much to take..and all i can see is a unhappy marriage... :( :(
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The only unhappy marriages I know of didn't survive.
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You shouldnt sacrifice your marriage just to make people happy (even if its your 1st family) Its your life and you have a right to choose, If people don't like your choice its simply their headache. Period.
Your happiness ought to matter more than someone else's happiness. Just think positive and long, take Allah SWT's help, make the RIGHT decisions and stand firm behind them.
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ther r tons of examples of complete disasterss marriages ... i m nt sure vich is the best to share ... :@:
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do u know of any?? or have u experienced one?? what were the reasons for being unhappy and how are they surviving...??
Unhappy marriages and "surviving"? In the same sentence, it sounds like a contradiction. The word "enduring" seems more like a better fit than the word "surviving." The point is...............why would anyone even want to be in such a situation? Moreover, why would anyone want to discuss such a negative situation?
Look, LostAngel, YOU are FAR from being in an "unhappy marriage".......because you're not even married yet. Although, there's not much time left before that might happen. You can open up a million threads where you pose such questions and encourage discussions.........but that's not going to really "help" you........unless you decide to take some firm and consistent (key word: consistent) ACTION (another key word) to get yourself out of your situation.
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u need to sit down n discuss this thoroughly with somebody in ur family sweety ..
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wah jee wah kia baat hy
once again
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knowingly entering an unhappy relationship is a big bewaqoofi
right now you are miserable, later you'll make many others miserable too
You can open up a million threads where you pose such questions and encourage discussions.........but that's not going to really "help" you........unless you decide to take some firm and consistent (key word: consistent) ACTION (another key word) to get yourself out of your situation.
^exactly
dont act like a lost filmi heroin, either go through it with your heart & if you cant, simply get out of it
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For your viewing pleasure, may I recommend:
Just switch up the genders yeah.
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^To sum it up, Pslims, is suggesting that OP murder her cousin/fiance. Or if that's not feasible......she should have an extramarital affair with a crime-fiction author....hope that her husband finds out....and will be angry enough to off her and put her out of her misery.
^On a more serious note.....don't do that. Take control of your life...because nobody else is going to do it for you.
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LMAO
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one of my cousins was "pressured" into an arranged marriage with another cousin of hers. She did not want to marry this guy, but did so, because she wouldnt (not couldnt, but WOULDNT) stand up for herself. She went through with the marriage (parents spent lots of money on the wedding), and 4 months later she got the courage to stand up and say, I dont want to be married to him. This devasted her family, and the guys family. They are now in the process of divorce. But my point is, if she had stood up like that BEFORE going through with the marriage, what is the worst that could have happened....her parents would be mad for a little while, people would get mad at her, and then eventually they would move on.
And even though I dont believe in this crap about "oh now she is divorced, who will marry her?", alot of people still have that backwards mentality, and people tell her her mother all the time, who is going to marry
her now because she is divorced. So basically saying, she would have been better off breaking it off before the marriage happened.
You only need to find one person to take your side, one person to really listen to what it is that you want. If this person is a relative from your dads side, go to your mom. If he is a relative from your moms side,
go to your dad. Talk to your siblings (if you have any older than you). Talk to an aunt or uncle your parents are close too, who they will listen to, but who will also listen to you.
Dont condemn yourself to a bad marriage from the start. Stand up for yourself, and you may be surprised what happens. Dont be meek, but dont be rude either. Just stand firm, and say, "No, I am not marrying
this person."
another cousin of mine (I have too many cousin stories!) - her parents were trying to make her marry her cousin, and she didnt want to. She told her parents, "you can beat me, you can make keema out of me,
you can kill me, you can do whatever you want, but I will never marry him. I can not accept him as my husband." Eventually (after 4 months of trying to pressure her) they gave up. Now she is getting married to
someone that she really likes, and her parents are very happy for her.
another cousin on mine (here I go with another cousin!), she got a rishta from another cousin of ours (this one I am related on both sides). She didnt want to marry him but she never said anything, she never
stood up for herself, she never gave any objections. Now she is married to this cousin, and she is miserable.
you dont want to be stuck in a marriage to someone you dont love. Marriage is forever! Its not a joke! Its not something you can get into now, and if it doesnt suit you well, you can just get up and leave.
You really need to stand up for yourself before its too late. I wish you all the best.
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I would rather stay single forever than marry a person I didn't want to get married to. Just tell your parents firmly that you dont like him, you don't want to marry him and if they force you, you will say no at nikkah time since its your right.... be very firm about it. I'm sure they will stop forcing you since unn ki bhi izzat ka sawal hai, take a stand.
And please don't give into the emotional blackmail parents always do at such times, just make up your mind and firmly say no.... or do some emotional blackmailing of your own too.
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Getting married to someone you don't like, is the worst thing you can do. People always say that it will change after engagement/marriage but believe me it doesn't. So if you have figured out, that you cannot spend the rest of your life with this person, then the best thing you can do is to refuse.
I know that it isn't easy temporary but the hard time will pass and everyone will realize that your step was the best. Getting married for the sake of your parents or for your "ghar ki izzat", is not making this marriage work. You are the one who has to live this relationship and not your parents or family. I hope you find someone who will support you, that makes things easier but if not, don't be afraid! It's your right to dicide how to live your life. . .
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thats tooo much of tragic stories... does an unhappy marriage only result from "forced" marriages? Love marriages can sometimes also lead to unhappy marriages... it really depends on the nature of understanding between the spouses and other relevant factors after marriage... but definitely full agreement of both boy and girl without any pressure at the time of marriage can reduce the chances of an unhappy marriage as they both try to work hard towards making their marriage a success...
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** It is so hard to take marriage positively because people in our communities are forced to live together and some sacrifice their entire lives to stick to their partner... I have seen men cheating, lying, deceiving, but the girls still take them as their respective spouses. My sister is scared to get married because there is no guarantee about the guy whether he will change down the road of life or not. I have heard so many tragic stories that makes me think negative about marriage myself :( but I do have my hopes too.... People say things but they might not stick to their words which is such a scary thought for me to be thinking about...**