mizsani
October 29, 2010, 9:13am
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Re: Talakyafta Larka?
Salam guys!
This is my first post and my first topic on this forum. I’ve been reading here for over a year now and just love people who write here.
Well my question is; would you marry a divorced man? We have often heard about ke "oh nehii larki ki talaak and stuff…” But what about the boys?
**A really close friend of mine has been through something which we other never thought about. He married a girl from Pakistan for 2 years back. Got nikkahfied and then the girl got the visa and all, but wanted to fulfill her studies as well. Since the family of the guy is well educated and all, they understood it and wanted the girl to accomplish her studies. They supported her. They planned a wedding ceremony a year after when she got the visa, went to pak and did dhoom dhaam se shaadi! And then when the girl came to this foreign country, uske to tewar hi alag the! =O My friend told me that she was just observing others, aur nakhre uthana aur dramey. She got my friends dad to make parathas every day for her and all! =/ and then the day came when she was going back to Pakistan to fulfill her studies. She took everything with her. Hota hai ke neya ghar ban raha hai, you are going to live in another country..just let your things be here and then go to pak and get the rest of your stuff as well. Par aisi to baat hi nehi thi. After some days she went to her parents’ house in pak and said that she wanted a divorce. She wanted all the money and gold which was mentioned in the nikkah. She already had much but she demanded more. She got the visa, money, gold and got divorced. The lil reason she started all this mess with was ke ; “inho ne mujhe wahan naukrani ki tarah rakha…” which was not true :S I know this uncle who is the father of my friend…he is heart operated, but yet he took her daughter in law and the rest of the family raat ke 12 bhajje bahir for sehr because she was just here for some weeks. He cooked so much food and did everything for her, aur usne yeh sillah diya :S My friend gave her many chances. Par voh phir na sudri. He even almost stopped talking with his parents because his ex-wife wanted so. **
**The relatives of this guy also started to go against him and his family. Logo ko bholne ki aadat hai..They didn’t do anything. They just said ke “humein kya pattah aap log bahir kehse rehte ho?”..=O How can someone say something like that…People usually say that we who live outside of Pakistan are very “sade log..” And i totally agree with that. Like i saw this girl and i could never even think that she would do something like that just for money and visa? She was doing masters in something, aur phir bhi akkal aisi nikli? **
Aunty - the mother of the guy is totally heart broken. Akhir ek hi ek beta…Nikkah ek saal raha, he sent eidiyan money mobile and everything for that girl…:S It seemed like to be so good..and this happened! Now this aunty is thinking about to do a new rishta for this guy…Par aaj kal i donno…Who would marry a boy who divorced his ex-wife? Jab inke relatives said so much, to who would trust other people then? :S
- Regards from a newbie on this forum!
Welcome to GS!! I am sort of new too.
Anyways, kuch log hote hain aise… she might have some reasons behind it. I dont think ke koi larki faltoo mein apni shaadi tura kar divorcee bane gi. even a guy would not do that.
And I would not marry a divorcee because I would want my husband to have never been with another woman just like I have neevr been with any guy. I wnat to be my husband’s first love.