I think she is being unreasonable…As unfair as it sounds, burden should lie on the bahu to make the adjustments and sacrifices and put aside her ego. Btw this should go without saying–I’m talking about normal MIL/DIL relationships, not the crazy abusive ones.
Anyways I know that’s not the real subject here… but as mentioned in the first post, i think it is very important for women to be self sufficient. Learn english, be educated, even if they don’t work, have activities to keep yourself busy. Unfortunately in the older desi community, its not encouraged…
God forbid if I ever find myself in that situation, I would feel like I was a child again and really…what adults wants to feel like that? I’d rather live alone and have my independence and control when I have company and at least control my life than to live with anyone else.