would you take offense if none of the woman in your in-laws(except 1) compliemented you just even once by themselves or didnt even make one positive statement about you or didnt smile at you or hug you or kiss you on the day of function?
say for example the only people who said naything nice about you was your hubby and your brother in law and your hubby’s momani but NONE of the main women did especially your sister in law and mother in law?..and you felt like they were doing this on purpose in front of you
WOULD you take offense and take it seriously?
would you take it to mean that the women in your sasural s dont care about you?
or that they are trying to be mean to you on purpose?
is this a bad omen for the future?
awww…dont feel bad…to me, my husband’s compliment would matter the most…everyone else’s compliments are certainly appreciated, but i wouldn’t feel bad if i didn’t get them.
"Normal" people tend to give pleasant compliments to one another at functions and gatherings. It doesn't take 'guts', 'courage' or 'intelligence' to do so. Even the shy, submissive people are comfortable giving compliments occasionally. Either your in laws aren't from this planet or they are making it very clear to you how they feel about you. Of course, you have first hand experience with them and so you can assess the situation better and it may perhaps be some other reason for their attitude towards you. I could understand that perhaps one of them could be having a bad day and wasn't in the mood to shower you (or anyone) with compliments, but 'everyone' having a bad day is highly unlikely.
However, with the limited information you have provided us in your post, it only leads me to believe that they aren't particularly fond of you at this point in time. Perhaps they might grow to appreciate you - who knows.
Advice: Be cautious in your words and actions. Show patience and love.
However, with the limited information you have provided us in your post, it only leads me to believe that they aren't particularly fond of you at this point in time.
Understatement!!
Be cautious in your words and actions. Show patience and love.
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Thats a girl , instead of just whining about anything and everything about your susral in Life1, take action and do something about it.
Bravo , bravo , bravo.
keep urself busy , every time do ur best to all regardless what they have done to you.
Set your goal an priorities and focus on those.
People tend to jelous when they find someone nice around them.
ur susralis' behaviour is not normal.
So you will be waisting ur time and energy by caring of their abnormal behaviour.
some ppl suck at expressing anything good... but if its only u they do this to and express to others.. then that may be a problem which you can choose to tlak to them about in the future.
First of all...to answer your question NO I wouldnt be offended. For some people complimenting others comes naturally for others it doesnt. It may not be personal. It may just be the way they are.
Secondly, if I was married...my husbands compliments would be all that I need and want. Everyone elses would be appreciated but not needed.
First of all...to answer your question NO I wouldnt be offended. For some people complimenting others comes naturally for others it doesnt. It may not be personal. It may just be the way they are.
Secondly, if I was married...my husbands compliments would be all that I need and want. Everyone elses would be appreciated but not needed.
Agreed. I don't know your situation but I do know some people aren't comfortable with all that stuff. So don't take offence, its not like they said something bad about you.
would you take offense if none of the woman in your in-laws(except 1) compliemented you just even once by themselves or didnt even make one positive statement about you or didnt smile at you or hug you or kiss you on the day of function?
say for example the only people who said naything nice about you was your hubby and your brother in law and your hubby's momani but NONE of the main women did especially your sister in law and mother in law?..and you felt like they were doing this on purpose in front of you
WOULD you take offense and take it seriously?
would you take it to mean that the women in your sasural s dont care about you?
or that they are trying to be mean to you on purpose?
is this a bad omen for the future?
I would not even think about it....why is it so necessary form some people (well mostly girls) to note every single detail of it and then get taken back becasue someone in the in-laws did not hug you. These small details are good when trying a sky-dive but if you keep looking at these things in everyday life , life will come hard at you.....
Actually in most of the desi families the wedding of son/brother creates a gesture like bride will come and take away their son/brother so their is a feeling of jealousy, in my case my sil's wedding day and my valima day is the same so everyone in my susraal (basic family members) took care of her not mine, so I feel it but as far as my hubby's compliments are most important for me and his relatives like cousins, mumanis and chachis praised me so its enough for me.
maybe it was the circumstances u got married in. I know my cousin married a trini guy and there was like noo cpmplements cept for the occasional food is great and u look amazing. On the other hand...u could be thankful abt not getting complemnts. I personally suk at giving them. Someone once told me my eyes remind them of a beach cuz blue/green/orange and i was like thnx. They had very light brn eyes that could be described as kishmishi so i told them that theirs was the colour of rasins. THAT was an awkward moment. As long as u dserve the complments said or unsaid, ur gr8.
^ LOL!!! ahahahahaha, the color of raisins! dude, that would have made me laugh so hard. how did they react?
i'd care... it would bug me espe. if they made it a point to compliment everyone else except me, as for hugging/kissing... aren't they part of desi greeting? if they didn't do that with me, i'd be well pissed off. actually, let me clarify- i'd care the first couple of times and once i was sure they were just being biatchy and not just having a bad day, i wouldn't give a toss about their opinion. i find its usually something petty like jealousy that makes people behave this way- its very smallminded and completely childish. i say meh to them and their 5-year old behaviour.
