Do we have the right to demand a separate home even when we know he cannot afford it right now?
Re: Ta Da! The Joint Family System!
Roti hamesha garam taway per paktee hai. Thanday taway per roti pakaney sai srif aata kharab hota hai - food for thought
Re: Ta Da! The Joint Family System!
yes we have right to ask a separate home..well if he cant afford a house then he can get an apartment on rent (he can get a cheaper and smaller one if he cant afford a big 1)
Living will in laws is good if everything is balance but then if you cant dress up the way you want, you cant cook what you want, you cant invite your friends when ever you want, you cant get your own privacy and for everything you have to ask their permission then life gets difficult
one thing i always hear is this, beta agar alag hogaya to maa baap ko bool jaye ga..i dont understand why do people think like that..living separately doesnt mean that he will forget his parents and his duties towards his parents
Re: Ta Da! The Joint Family System!
Yes! iF U BOTH could afford it together.. Its simple: if u are willing to contribute towards paying the bills then why not
Re: Ta Da! The Joint Family System!
**ek urdu kaa she'r hai:
rishtedaar bhii haiN kuchh ajeeb sii sulagtii huii lakRiyaaN
door raheN to dhuaaN deN, paas aayeN to jalne lageN
[relatives are like smoldering wood logs...if they are apart they fume a lot and if you put them close together they burn out]
keep them in separate dwellings for the peace if u can afford it or else lay some ground rules for co-existence. :)**
Re: Ta Da! The Joint Family System!
For some reason…I keep reading LakRiyaaN as LaRkiyaaN…
I think that is an excellent shair!
Re: Ta Da! The Joint Family System!
why not find a man, who is living on his own rather than marrying a man who doesn't want to move out?
Re: Ta Da! The Joint Family System!
**
if u switharoo R wit K…hehehe…thank you for liking the she’r…its NOT mine though but i’ll wait for a couple of days and if nobody claims ownership then its MINE!!! hehe**
Re: Ta Da! The Joint Family System!
if he's too poor he can at least buy a tent, can't he do this much?:D
this other poster on the other thread was willing to live in a 50 squre feet home. i wonder if she knows how much space it is !!!:p
Re: Ta Da! The Joint Family System!
thats just a start …
well…instead of opening all these threads and saying same thing over n over again…
why you girls want to marry someone and then put them through these difficult situations?? why can’t you just make it like a precondition?? like you would have a precondition that you marry a straight man…??
“MARRY SOMEONE WHO IS NOT LIVING (GOING TO EVER LIVE) WITH HIS PARENTS/FAMILY,
OWNS HIS OWN HOUSE”
“MARRY SOMEONE WHO IS NOT LIVING (GOING TO EVER LIVE) WITH HIS PARENTS/FAMILY,
OWNS HIS OWN HOUSE”
“MARRY SOMEONE WHO IS NOT LIVING (GOING TO EVER LIVE) WITH HIS PARENTS/FAMILY,
OWNS HIS OWN HOUSE”
“MARRY SOMEONE WHO IS NOT LIVING (GOING TO EVER LIVE) WITH HIS PARENTS/FAMILY,
OWNS HIS OWN HOUSE”
“MARRY SOMEONE WHO IS NOT LIVING (GOING TO EVER LIVE) WITH HIS PARENTS/FAMILY,
OWNS HIS OWN HOUSE”
Re: Ta Da! The Joint Family System!
How familiar Pakistani society is with the species called gold-diggers? Materialism often plays a big part in desi relationships, doesn't it?
Re: Ta Da! The Joint Family System!
LOL! 85% of desi girls would never find a desi groom is thet start putting forward such preconditions. In all seriousness, I believe men must know what their potential spouse really and I mean really thinks of their parents before they get to the stage of saying I do.
Re: Ta Da! The Joint Family System!
How familiar Pakistani society is with the species called gold-diggers? Materialism often plays a big part in desi relationships, doesn't it?
Materialism it is called here.....only if its the "guy mooching off of wife" or "parents/siblings asking for guys money".........................rest of the time its "a Right"
Re: Ta Da! The Joint Family System!
LOL! 85% of desi girls would never find a desi groom is thet start putting forward such preconditions. In all seriousness,
Its better they put it as a precondition rather than destroy the life of MANY people involved (including the children to be)....
I believe men must know what their potential spouse really and I mean really thinks of their parents before they get to the stage of saying I do.
Its not something to be found out......its just like a universal truth that women hate their in-laws to be anywhere near their lives (with few exceptions offcourse)..
Re: Ta Da! The Joint Family System!
Its not something to be found out......its just like a universal truth that women hate their in-laws to be anywhere near their lives (with few exceptions offcourse)..
Yet some men get happily decieved by the coochie coo-ness girl showers on them, thinking she might carry the same or at least some level of warmth towards his parents as well.
Don't get me wrong, often certain *experiences *does put you off your inlaws, but walking into the marriage with so much reservations and bit*hiness about your inlaws just because they are your inlaws is pathetic. I mean you hear girls moaning about their man being momma's boy and his evil mother being so nosy and controlling, I wonder how many of them have the guts to say that on their men's face? I remember there was thread by some girl who wanted to slap her mother in law because she everyday called her son or the son called her everyday, I bet she only felt so vindictive because it was the poor old mother in law. The person you must try to have an issue with because she the MIL.
Re: Ta Da! The Joint Family System!
Why is living away from the In-laws such a big deal? Is it because of all the horror stories you lot hear or is there a substantive reason?
Re: Ta Da! The Joint Family System!
hello, i didnt open any thread..i just said what i think about it…
Re: Ta Da! The Joint Family System!
hello, i didnt open any thread..i just said what i think about it...
wasn't directed at you personally...
here is what i said.. girl*S*...
why you **girls **want to marry someone and then put them through these difficult situations??
Re: Ta Da! The Joint Family System!
Stories and other art forms often imitate life. 
Re: Ta Da! The Joint Family System!
Yes you have the right to demand separate living, since you have religion on your side!
Is it right? HELL NO! Any girl who pushes her husband to such limits, was and will probably never be mature enough to be married.