Re: is MAID a better choice??
I don't think I would be able to make my perspective clear to some people. I am not against grandmother taking care of children but regarding cases when people bring strangers to serve as maids in their absence.
I think in this case one should intrview someone who became a victom of child abuse in such a way that his/her parents couldn't even know, infact the parents were blind folded by a sweat reputation/dealing that they have brought an angel to their house in the form of a maid.
There are certain things you can never compromise on and there are certain things which can be compromised for a certain time. It is up to a mother if she wants to compromise the earlier life of her child or few years of her profession, career,...etc. she has a right to make a decison and be ready for the consequences.
Btw why do old parents complain when their children leave them home with maids. You see maids are human beings with feelings. Parents should realize that their children have their wishes of learning, potential of career, ....etc. so they should quickly die and be buried along with their wishes of spending time with their children. ISN'T IT ?? Such thought comes to the children when earlier a mother showed them through her own actions that she can sacrifice a child's childhood for her own career. As you sow so shall you reap.
I am not saying that we should leave our profession and stay at home, but there is no substitute for a mother's love and she should not let anyone share it with her, but only to support her in her presence. Nothing is impossible when one is willing to struggle to achieve anything along with seeking the blessings and grace of Allah.
For all other things you would get many opportunities, but not for the time which you missed when a close relative needed you, but he couldn't effectively comunicate his feelings/problems/wishes to you.