Swearing at in-laws

[Reha]

Re: Swearing at in-laws

@Nad_e_Ali

Thanks to all the guppies for giving me good advice. I did apologize to my in-laws with my heart and they are now happy with me. However, I do know that I gotta work really hard to get their trust and respect back. As for my husband, he did not say a word to defend me, but I realized it was my fault, I was the one who uttered those words regardless to what the circumstances were and Im glad I did not have to rely on him to ask my in-laws for forgiveness. You guys pray for me that Allah swt also forgives me and clears my in-laws’s heart for me. I feel 100 times lighter now and I am so glad I discussed my problem here. I hope my husband realizes his part of mistake and apologizes to me too. When I told my father in law that he kept swearing at me, he replied saying “wo to mard hai, mard to bohat much kehte hain” but he did say that what husband did is really wrong too and will speak with him in private

I don’t think your FIL was defending him so don’t take it that way. He was talking about the fitrat of some men. He was telling you that you are a much better person and he didn’t expect this from you.

I am really glad you cleared the air with them and didn’t have to bring your husband in the middle of all this. You should not have to depend on him to maintain your relationship with your in-laws.

Husband will only realize he was wrong when he sees things between you and in-laws going well AND when you keep your feelings about your in-laws to yourself. No matter how crazy things get - do not say a word against them.

And don’t be jealous of your MIL…she is his mother. She gave him life. Tumhara koi muqabla nahin hai aur na hoga. Understand that. It doesn’t mean you are not in as lofty of a position as her in his life…it means you have a different position.