Re: Swearing at in-laws
I assume we are all Muslims, as such, a woman is entitled to separate abode. Doesn’t have to be a mansion, can be hovel, but is her right none the less. Her husband shouldn’t be putting her in a position for her to get involved. Humans are allowed to have opinions, doesn’t mean you start sulking like a baby or become passive aggressive because your wife said something that stung you.
You guys that live in such scenarios where you have to mind your tongue and tread on egg shells, good luck with that!
She’s been married for years living in an environment where her in laws fight like cats and dogs - you don’t think her children are picking up on this? So her and her children should compromise on the way they should live and behave indefinitely just so her husband can fulfill his duties of being a diligent son? If this ever happens to my one and only sister, I tell you straight, I will go find two witnesses, and beg her husband to divorce her! Who wants to live in such a compromising environment for potentially decades on end.
My mum lived through this with her in-laws, 30+ years of daily fighting, being put down etc, even after doing khidmat. How did my mum handle it, diplomatically off course - "respect your elders, koi baat nai, etc. Me and my oldest brother created a scenario one day where we literally told our father to pick his educated jahil siblings and mother (not granddad, he was kool, RIP) or his wife and kids. Me and brother ended in one day what my mother couldn’t in 30 years of being nice, biting her tongue etc. Lifes to short.