Surviving on low income

psyah · January 16, 2012, 8:49am

Re: Surviving on low income

I don’t have a computer of my own … this is his old desktop which his sister uses quite a bit.
His mother does not just ‘give’ the money to his married sisters. He has 3 married sisters with 12 children in total. At least one of them comes over with her children every 2-3 days. Then he has to go out and get chicken or bread because that is what the kids want or what we made at home is not what they want to eat. Hence, we end up spending a LOT of money on food. The rent is fixed. We are careful with electricity and we have the slowest internet which I created a biggest fuss about when they wanted to upgrade so they didn’t. We got rid of a home phone line and now only use cell phones occasionally. Clothes are not an issue because we had too many before we moved here. I think we are doing good in all the departments except the food. What makes me so upset is not being able to pay the rent because money was spent on eating so he has to ask people for money to pay the rent!!!
I just moved here a few months ago with him and never thought of getting a job at that time. I think of getting one now but I am moving back to US in May so he thinks it’s useless for me to even try. BTW, this is not an in-laws bashing thread. My in laws are very nice people but they simply don’t understand how hard it is to earn money now a days. It takes an entire day to make 750 rupees and they will spend it within minutes on food. I have tried talking to him but it always leads to arguments. He says my haq is 50% on his earnings but he cannot cut down the amount that he gives his family. I just can’t wait to go back and get myself a proper job again because having to worry about basic things like cng is really getting to me … I will try and use some tips about carpooling & updating his resume and applying to more jobs for him but it’s so tough to find a job now a days!!!

Peace mt3g

By your words it appears that you are well educated … Do you have any children? If not then consider getting a job as others have suggested. You need to be the person taking control of your affairs not your mother-in-law. Although I have seen this is the case in many families including my relatives where in one case a mother treats her own daughters too well and her son’s families are treated like slaves. However, in their defence those girls are simpleton, but you I think are not … you have no excuse to let yourself be put in this situation.

Alas … people may be milking it from you because you are there for the time being