Funny how Islam takes such a massive lead when it comes to such sad little pitty issues.
Most of us here have a secular view point of life and discuss issues in that vein. Bringing in religion to support your secular point of view, therefore, makes no sense. As per Life 1, our religion is only valid for the following circumstances:
1) Not changing your surname to your husband's name.
2) Not living with your in-laws. This one is especially interesting & intriguing because during this argument, even the dreaded "mahram / na-mahram concept" is allowed limited temporal AND spatial validity. Hurrah!
3) Husband is solely responsible for bringing home the dough.
For all the other situations, religion is an out-dated (re'; 1,400 years old) way of thinking. At best, it is a tool for male domination.
but i have heard of families changing the girl's first name--now that, I can see the fuss over.
That used to be pretty common practice. Basically people would consult their 'pirs' and change the wife's name to what they felt was more appropriate and better for her. Really backwards practice, I can't believe people used to do that.
Can't believe those girls who were told their first names had to be changed just went along with it.. or their parents didn't kick up a fuss to stop it happening..
Can't believe those girls who were told their first names had to be changed just went along with it.. or their parents didn't kick up a fuss to stop it happening..
This was back when parents believed in marrying off the daughters at the first opportunity and women were expected to go along with everything they were told to do. Don't think it happens anymore.
I didn't change my last name when I got married and my husband doesn't seem to feel offended or have a problem.. at least he never said anything so..
I didn't change because too much of hassle.. can't be asked..