One of those threads that just wanna invite those pesudo feminists to come up with all sorts of funny rants.
Is this supposed to be such a big issue in Pakistani community? Feminisim is all in your face in the Western society yet changing surename is such a common practice, reasons like this is a sign of operssion or it means you become your husband's property just reflects the kind of enviroment the person has spent l his life in.
Oh if I change my surename in this world, does that mean my name will erased from database that angels carry? Thats a good thing, if I take my husband's name, that means angels won't be able to identify me on the day of judgment, what more do you want eh? (LOL!!!)
The thing is that it shouldn't be a big deal. Why look down on one group or the other? They both have their reasons for either keeping their surname or changing it. Let people be......as it's most likely not going to be the sole determinant of their fate in the next world, nor is it enough to determine your character or to make your life a heaven on Earth.
Don't wanna sound like a preacher but Here is the verse from QURAN saying to call children by the names of their fathers.
“Call them (adopted sons) by (the names of) their fathers, that is more just with Allaah”
[al-Ahzab 33:5].
Also on the day of judgement we will be called by our fathers names. Aisha bint Mohammed for example.
Each to their own but I personally don't wanna adopt an act just because 'it's culture' LOL!
I don't think I really care what name I will be called by on the Day of Judgment. My name l won't get me into Jannat, that's for sure.
you dont like it, you don’t read it learn to ignore and you wl save yourself the headache n when you are done doing all that, aim to get a life too :D.
So you are saying its not?
I meant that for both sides. I don’t see why the girl should have such an ego issue abt their surname change and same way if a girl doesnt want to change i dont understand why the inlaws or the husband should push it.
To the mods, i am actually shocked how you guys let all the unrelated crap go on at the threads.
I know 3 families who changed their bahu's name , 2 had the same name as their nands, so the susraal wale changed the name...
And one susraal wale didn't like the girls name so they just changed it before Nikkah... weird!!!
The notion of the name change in Islam from what I was informed is that man and woman are seen from their fathers line. On the day of Judgment they shall be called by their father's names. Thus Islam does not allow for a woman to change her name. However this is based on interpretation of a hadis. This matter is by no means covered in Sunnah or the Quran from what i can gather.
There is nothing specifically wrong or right about taking the husband's last name. I find it an annoying issue which feminists harp on about to show their independence and identity. But that begs only one question from me. Why don't the ladies take their mother's last name instead? I understand that the name is a part of your identity, it is the name you have grown up with it. It is how you have defined yourself since birth.
However remember that the naming convention from the father is used to denote to which family the female belongs to. For right or wrong - you decide I don't care - the family line comes from the Father. He is the figure from which the family and genetic line descends. When a daughter is born she is part of his family. In Western society when she leaves her family, she joins the husband's family and takes his name. The name change denotes which family she recently joined and it was a transfer of responsibility in the ye good olde days.
In this day and age when families are more interconnected and communication is easier, the need for that handing over of responsibility is not needed. Yet women still do take the husband's name. It is as common in the West as it is in the East. It is merely a matter of choice and cultural traditions. You either chose to respect that or not. The choice is yours. But do have the foresight to discuss these issues with your husband.
im just wonder why its a big deal in pakistan...its all cuz u may feel respect...so i dont have any idea cuz according laws i cant change my names but dont know why men feel respect in it...
for me watever is my name in my ID card its officail why to disturbe all world to change my name...
even i changed my first name when i was 12 even my current name is much nicer but i never made headache to change in Doc...same i feel for after marriage even if a husband wish to call u according him no need to change all doc & waste time he cal call u as he wish but still u will be same for thoes sides that relate u to ur father...
father & husband both r loving & makes attachment for u.....even if in laws i could change still i wouldnt see reason to change officialy...im intruducing myself in name of hubby or my father depend on situation & i dont feel it respect or etc ...its only cuz im related to both of them borth r lovely men of my life
learn to ignore and you wl save yourself the headache n when you are done doing all that, aim to get a life too :D.