I know Islam doesnt require the women to change her surname after marriage but its part of our culture.
Do i want to change my surname? No. Would I? Yes. Why? because since its part of our culture, my not doing that may mean disrespect to my inlaws and/or my husband. Is it worth sticking to my surname at the expense of such discomfort between me and my family? I don’t think so.
Why do we make such small issues matter of our ego.
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My mother kept her original surname. Personally, I agree with some Western couples who give their children a totally different surname than their own. After all, the mother is just as important as the father.
No wait, she's MUCH MUCH MORE IMPORTANT.
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chalain good for you but why make 34921697834th thread on this topic? You have your own preferences, but that doesn’t mean you need to announce it to everyone 
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it was a question, why r u getting offended? i dnt think a topic on this subject has been made earlier here otherwise i wud have posted there.
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**i've three relatives who are doctors and who have changed their last name officially but they kept their maiden names at work.
i think women should not. it shows as if they are their husband's properties or something. for a change, i will adopt my wife's last name :) hehe**
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Nothing but oppression . Women must rise against it 
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Someone started a similar topic few weeks ago.
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Someone started a similar topic few weeks ago.
ok my bad, i wud request a mod 2 merge this :) thnx.
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why is it opression? i wud feel pity if a guy or his family thinks they have gained some power/control over the dil by giving their surname to her. Only retarted people would have that mentality.
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why is it opression? i wud feel pity if a guy or his family thinks they have gained some power/control over the dil by giving their surname to her. Only retarted people would have that mentality.
I should have highlight the second part . . . **Women must rise against it .
**btw its not really about conquering someone , but more about how much you want someone to be part of you .
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i prob wouldn't to be honest. i like my surname. but if at some point i decided to my middle name is my dads name so i will always have that. i dont think my fiance would have a problem with me changing or not changing my name.
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btw its not really about conquering someone , but more about how much you want someone to be part of you .
True that. This is what totally changes the dimension of what otherwise would come across as an inappropriate demand.
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i prob wouldn't to be honest. i like my surname. but if at some point i decided to my middle name is my dads name so i will always have that. i dont think my fiance would have a problem with me changing or not changing my name.
That's a good idea.
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Hehe in my understanding our fammilies passed on first names and last names… but a sort of surname had to be earned as well… that more commonly used surname was often earned through ones own merits or transgressions.
I dont mind my last name but it’s not one you can pass onto a woman becuase it’s a masculine surname… hence she is happy to keep her own name… but she took my middlename instead. 
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Why would you wanna follow culture? you say you DON'T wanna do it? Then don't be a follower, implement your own morals ethics into your life.
It's not a big deal changing your surname and it's up to the individual, i'm not disrespecting the women who do change their names, but it's not required by Islam. Even a revert does not need to change their name. Allah (swt) tells us in the Quran to carry the names of our fathers. The Prophet (saw) often changed the names of the people when, like you said, the name had a negative meaning. Why change your name just because you get married? Because the westerners do it? You will still be called by your father's name on the day of judgement. Makes perfect sense not to bother.
Don't wanna sound like a preacher but Here is the verse from QURAN saying to call children by the names of their fathers.
“Call them (adopted sons) by (the names of) their fathers, that is more just with Allaah”
[al-Ahzab 33:5].
Also on the day of judgement we will be called by our fathers names. Aisha bint Mohammed for example.
Each to their own but I personally don't wanna adopt an act just because 'it's culture' LOL!
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I honestly dont think its a big deal to take your husbands last name, and I dont see it as oppression either. My mom has told me not to change my last name, my fiance told me its my own decision. I dont see anything wrong with it. Its a girls own personal choice. It has nothing to do with anyone else. At work, I see more and more women taking their husbands last names (white women), and I think its nice that they want to be known as so and so's wife. I dont see the big deal. I think people read way too much into this, and this women's rights thing is ridiculous. You are not being oppressed if you take your husbands name (of your own choice). There are bigger issues to fight about when it comes to women's rights. This is suck a small thing.
In the end, the decision should be solely made by the girl. I am probably going to hyphenate my name, as I want to keep my last name because Im used to it with my name (not because Im trying to fight some invisible oppression), and will hyphenate it with my fiances last name. Its not a big deal, and it doesnt make me weak or oppressed. I want to be connected to my husband and kids (in the future inshAllah), and this is the way to do it in the eyes of everyone else.
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.....You will still be called by your father's name on the day of judgement.....
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i'm sorry but for ur info on the Day of Judgement people will be called by their mother's name like Hishaam ibn e Fatima...this is in order to protect the dignity of that person if he/she happens to be an illegitimate child.**
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^ this isnt true.. there is just one weak hadith regarding this but in Bukhari it is very clearly stated that everyone will be called by their fathers name... if osmeone doesn't know the name of their father, Allah knows it all.. thats how people will be called.
The only exception is Hazrat Eesa, even in Quran everyone is called by their father's name except Hazrat Eesa who is called by his mother's name and that exception can be made on the day of judgement as well.
ps: too many threads on this topic.. why do people need to discuss the same thing over and over again?
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Just because a woman takes on her husband's last/family name does NOT guarantee that she would be a good wife or daughter-in-law. And there are many women who took their husband's name and get treated like crap by their husband/in-laws. I wouldn't make "surname change" an indicator or a measurement of a woman's devotion to her husband or her character or how good of a wife/DIL she is.
"Why do we make such small issues matter of our ego?" This statement can be looked at from more than one angle. For example, if you're indirectly reprimanding or scolding those women who chose to or want to keep their last name..................then a similar question can be posed to YOU......as in "Why are YOU making a big deal out of such a small issue as a woman wanting to keep her maiden name since it won't affect your life anyway?"
I've heard that it's recommended to keep your maiden name in Islam.....but I've also heard that there is nothing wrong if you change it as well. If religion allows freedom..............then demanding a woman to change her maiden name.........can ALSO bee seen as an ego issue.
I don't plan to change my name after marriage. And it's not an ego issue for me. My last name is my father's name. It represents my roots....my family...and that's important to me. This does not mean that my own family (kids, etc) wouldn't mean anything to me. And for someone to pressure me to change my last name.....when I have every right to keep it as it has sentimental value to me.....why is that "pressure" not seen as an ego issue?
I believe in the "Live and let live"........I don't judge other women for choosing to keep their maiden names....and I also don't care if they change it. It doesn't affect my life. It won't affect my marriage. And it doesn't tell me anything about how good of a wife/DIL/Mother they are. And it's certainly no guarantee that the in-laws will treat you right.