I think thats a generalised observation. I live with my mother and father in law - my husband (only son) pays for everything in the house and I work full time also - but my money is my money and no one has ever asked for it - but I still think to save for our future. My father in law actually told my husband to get his own place when we were getting married but i declined as well as my husband. My husband bought mashAllah a big house for us four to live in and we wouldnt even have to move if we had four children later on lol - I dont even cook/clean on a daily bais - my mother in law always does this and i help out. In the long term they are going to get older as they are in there 60s - but at present I know when it comes to having children - they will be more than happy for me to continue with my career and they can help raise my children. Because if i lived alone - i question if i could afford full or even part time child care? and the love grandparents give is much much more than we can give our own children. Also as a daughter, I personally wouldnt like it if my brother left my mum alone when he got married - I think us girls often forget how we have mums as do our husbands and we should treat them equally. There are decent in laws out there - who are not nosy/intrusive.