Having read the statement of having a supportive husband , specially by the working women that " I want to work but my husband is not supportive " urged me to ask the question.
What is a supportive husband means !!!
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Do you mean women who are working and say that their husbands are not supportive? Or women who wish to work and are saying this?
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What is a supportive husband means !!!
A husband who bears all the household expenses and lets his working wife waste her money wherever she wants to.
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Do you mean women who are working and say that their husbands are not supportive? Or women who wish to work and are saying this?
Interesting , I believe will be to know both and other perspectives as well
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A supportive husband is one who knows what makes his wife happy whether that is working/not working and does not pressurise her to follow his own demands but accepts her as she is. He does not clip off her wings if she wants to soar but is like the wind propelling her to soar higher. He knows her dreams and aspirations before marriage and does not make her change all for him. Instead he tries to understand those dreams, he understands that she had a life before him and would not want to change all to meet his demands. He is not egoistic and believes husband/wife should work as a team. He does not take offense if his wife knows better in a particular area and he is asked to take the back seat. He is supportive of her when he knows she is right even if his family or others disagree. He explains to his family and makes them come around. He does not tolerate any bad words said about his wife by others in family and is willing to stand up for her. He does not put his wife under extra stress and helps around the house so household chores are balanced.
I think if a female has worked 5-6 yrs of her life towards a particular career and she is getting to where she wants to be isnt it better to support her then say her hard work is not important anymore. Isn't it good if both husband and wife reach goals they have worked hard towards? Won't that make the marriage more successful in the end?
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You must be swimming in marriage proposals (because of your views)
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Shahid, are you single? 
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I think he’s married 
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he might be a she even…
Supportive husband
A "supportive husband" is subjective and will have different meanings to different people. It's not limited to women just wishing to work and being/not being allowed.
Here's the definition of the word supportive from google. Now just out it into the context of a marriage or relationship.
sup·port·ive
səˈpôrtiv/
adjective
1.
providing encouragement or emotional help.
"the staff are extremely supportive of each other"
synonyms: encouraging, caring, sympathetic, reassuring, understanding, concerned, helpful, kind, kindly; More
in favor of, favorable to, pro, on the side of, sympathetic to, well-disposed to, receptive to
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You must be swimming in marriage proposals (because of your views)
Not really bro. It's hardly a question that comes up in marriage proposals.
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That’s really sweet of you. I’m truly flattered. I was single till recently but am soon to be engaged to my best friend. I’ve found sometimes the rishta you have been looking for has been known to you the whole time. I would hope more guys shared these views because for me it is quite logical. If you see your partner more as an individual and your marriage as a partnership you’d want them to be the best they can be. Wish you all the best.
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Not quite there but eventually. I think questions like “what does being a supportive husband/wife mean to you?” or “what do you believe a marriage is to you?” are important and should be asked during the rishta process.
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Sorry Buttsb i’m a male. But I will let eligible females know you are available. Good to be wishful thinking. Also, views are determined by more than gender but also by our environment and people we are surrounded by. My views are not rare nor uncommon where I am from.
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Not really bro. It's hardly a question that comes up in marriage proposals.
It should then. So that more men are forced by 'market forces' to change their views. No?
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It should then. So that more men are forced by 'market forces' to change their views. No?
I agree it should. There should be a question on what makes a supportive husband or a supportive wife. I would hope females and males would choose someone who actually fits that supportive category rather than choose on other factors. If you reward douchebag behaviour you can't expect that behaviour to disappear. Good guys with good values should be chosen over people who are flashy with little substance. Likewise with females.
I don't know if my views are all that rare though. I'm sure a lot of guys think that. Maybe it's just the guys i hang around. If anyone wants to borrow my views, internalise them and put them into practice i'm all for it :) They're free.
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Dear Shahid anwar : your views are very much appreciated by most of the ppl.
I honestly hope and prey for your success in marriage life .
Just a note for you . real world is very very different . Some times it is very difficult to implement / execute our views
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I think it's means that he wants what is best for you and not just him and his family....
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I have met a few guys now that insist anyone who is not willing to support you in the kinds of things you want to do with your life, is not worth marrying.
Means: If you want to work, then he will work with you to build a schedule that helps both of you work; if you want to do volunteer work on Saturdays for a charity, he will not stop you; if you want to run a Quran class from your home for little kids, he wont interfere and block you; if you want to go to the masjid every Friday with him for jummah, he'll make it happen.
In other words he doesn't block you from doing what makes you happy, just so that he can feel better about himself.
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Dear Shahid anwar : your views are very much appreciated by most of the ppl. I honestly hope and prey for your success in marriage life .
Just a note for you . real world is very very different . Some times it is very difficult to implement / execute our views
Thanks Echt. It took me a long time to finally end up with the person I want to be with so I want to make sure I do everything right. We're imperfect humans so marriage won't always be perfect. As long as you have a positive attitude and common outlook you can get through difficult times. It's like before the 1992 world cup Imran Khan was told by others that you're not going to win but in the end the team won. I was too young back then but that is what i've heard. Marriage duo of husband/wife is like a cricket team and marriage is probably similar to a world cup tournament. Some days you win and some days you don't. Every time you should aim to win the final and at the very least you will come second. If you lose, you pick up the pieces and learn from your mistakes for next time. You have to gather your morale and make sure you know your team philosophy. Sometimes you'll be the captain and sometimes you can be vice depending on what the situation is. If both of you are a team you have to best utilise your talents. Some people are batters, others bowlers and some are all rounders.
If your wife is an all rounder and can handle both work and home responsibilities, why would you stop her? Why would you put her lower down the order when she is better higher up. That would be to disadvantage of the team. If she's more a batter and you're an all rounder then that's fine as well. At the end of the day the selectors, i.e. the in laws, will have their biases but the primary team and the captain/vice have to make the main decisions. They can ask them for advice but best not to rely completely on them. If the team falls apart who is mostly blamed? In the final when Pakistan played England they worked as a cohesive unit with Imran Khan and Javed Miandad playing key roles. Obviously England were the meddling aunties/extended relatives. Before meeting them in an encounter you have to come up with some strategies discussed together for what they might throw at you. Don't be on the defensive but confidently play on the offensive against their attack. Look through that old shaadi video footage of who the main players are so you have strategies to combat them. They might do some dirty sledging and play on your mind but you have to find ways around that. Don't fall into mental disintegration. In the end you want to be picking up that golden trophy not them. That glory is meant for you. You have to let them know that their meddling place is secondary to the primary team. If it's a friendly match, they are a friendly team and it is not a world cup you don't have to have such a hostile approach. Just depends on the situation.