Supporting inlaws financially

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Re: Supporting inlaws financially

@Theorist

This is what I mean when I say it can cause resentment. A wife who has no brothers and sees her parents working their whole lives yet she supports her retired in-laws completely and it is considered to be her duty. She is not able to support her own parents because all her salary goes into supporting her household, which also includes her inlaws. Her own parents never require financial help because they don’t want to burden their daughters and die the last moment working! Huge cause for resentment.

Exactly! I never understood why in desi culture it’s frowned upon if you have a baby daughter over a son, because Allah ke fazl se my parents never treated me differently from my brothers and ensured our house is equal. After getting married… it all made sense women are expected to integrate to such an extent into the susraal that their own parents are forgotten about. Why isn’t the man expected to integrate to the same level? If the bahu has to serve her in-laws all day in her capacity as a housewife, why isn’t the damaad expected to financially support his in-laws as a son-in-law? Why is there such unfair expectations on women?!