What to do and what not to do?
What to say and what not to say?
Any words that will be said will remain there forever. if one want to emphasize that family especailly parents are imp and even though some times parents are “tough” or “wrong” but be kind to them. Some one can put it in good words?
Are there any sunna prayers or actions that one should perform before getting into th bed?
Any advice from experienced ppl will be appreciated.
BTW the night is for you two.. the parent sharent stuff can wait till later...
Re: Suhagh Raat
dude don’t even think of that parents sermon yet. u got plenty of time later.. pahlay din hee billee marnay kee koyee zaroorat naheen
just be considerate.. the girl had loads of makeup and probably has an aching jaw by now posing smiles for hours. Give her some time to relax and adjust to her new situation.. talk to her casually without going through some itemized list of do’s and don’ts and let the ‘mahoal’ develop into more casual and friendly.
and if the events turn in your favor.. Take it Easy and go slow.
Good Luck :k:
the very first thing i’ll say to her when i enter the room will be “please relax and take the jewlery off as you must be tired by now, trying to keep your neck and face up all day long.” afterall, she’s a human just like the guy. then say some sweet stuff 
I'm not a complete fool dear. I think your "friend" could have asked this question himself. I think it's you.
AMA, it's apparent from your posts that you are a dominating sort of person and also very insecure. Women, to you, are chattel. Tell me, are you looking to get a wife to be a domestic servant in your house - what with inundating her with "parents are very important and can be tough or wrong but bear with them" - basically meaning your parents, that she will have to obey from day one?
You are mocking her chastity or lack thereof, in another thread and seems like all you want is just an innocent girl who you can use to your heart's content. That's truly very sad.
And btw, I do not make the mistake of getting personal. Just that I can read people and their intentions very well.
If I am in error, I apologize. But in this case - atleast from your posts- I don't think I am.
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If I am in error, I apologize. But in this case - atleast from your posts- I don't think I am.
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judging me AGAIN. I accepted ur sincere apology.
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look Ana.
its quite obvious from our sinister/sarcastic and hate filled posts that both of us are in a need of a little bit of love .......I do appolagise for all the profane remarks I had made about u ....
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Hmm.... I guesss I am not the only one.
The duas are:
Allãhumma inni as’aluka khayraha wa khayra ma jabaltahâ alayh, wa a-udhu bika min sharrihâ wa sharri mâ jabaltahâ alayhi.
O Allah, I seek of You the goodness in her and the good nature upon which You created her and I beg Your protection from the mischief in her and the mischievous nature upon which You created her. (Malik)
and
Bismillâhi allâhumma jannibnash-shaytana wa jannibi shaytâna ma razaqtana.
In the name of Allah. O Allah, protect us both from (he mischief of Satan and keep Satan away from the children You grant us.(Bukhari)
http://www.central-mosque.com/Dua/52.htm
http://www.central-mosque.com/Dua/51.htm
Google searches don’t hurt for basic things like this.
Thanks Ana…
Re: Re: Suhagh Raat
It seems like u have a “thing” with Mulvis. They are human too, u know. I heard “Iblees assigns bigger shaitan on those who are more pious.” Commitment of evil doesnt make us human, its the act of asking forgiveness. I dont like this act of stereotyping that all Maulvis are bad. I am certain u didnt mean to disrespect them.
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Ms Ana..I would like my wife to help out my mom and ofcourse respect my parents..why would that make her a servant? My mom took care of my grandparents, cooked, cleaned..so is that suppose to make her a servant..it would really piss me off if my wife ever ask me to move out
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I definitely agree with Sagi.
and asif you don't discuss all this on suhag raat..you better talk to her before you get married..see if u guys get along on this or any other issue
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and asif you don't discuss all this on suhag raat..you better talk to her before you get married..see if u guys get along on this or any other issue
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thanks, its a very god idea. I will surely do that b4 i even get into a relationship.
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thanks, its a very god idea. I will surely do that b4 i even get into a relationship.
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Please do pass on these "god" suggestions to your "friend" as well. After all, this thread "could" not be for you, but for your "friend". Remember? :)
so what was that dua again about “protection from the evil in her”?? man.. the ignorance never ends does it 
Soggy, he wanted a dua, I gave it to him. It's not like this is a religion forum that we need to diss on it all the time. In response to ur q tho, I will say that all humans are created with some evil in them, so that's prolly to protect from that. I donno. Jus... chill.......
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ana if u read what i wrote above..i did tell asif to discuss this way before marriage..and right now we are not discussing what Islam says about all this..there has to be a mutual understand between the husband and wife..they are suppose to think alike, be the best of friends...and if my wife is the only child of her parents and her parents need help then i would make them move in with us so we can takecare of them too..whatever ur father in law said to you was really stupid and mean..i wouldnt move out even if my parents can takecare of themselves..i love them too much and they loev me too much so why should we live apart...u know what i cant even imagine leaving them
if my wife wants to work after she gets married i wont have a problem with that either...i would probably have to do house work then too to help her..which would really suck but hey i try to be fair
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That's much better. :)
I brought Islam into it only coz AMA wanted duas and was looking to do things Islamically correct from the get-go, so I let him have it. :)
Suhaag Raat is sexism at its worst. Why isnt it called suhagan raat?
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thanks, its a very god idea. I will surely do that b4 i even get into a relationship.
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Get into a relationship? Don't you mean you will surely do that before marrying whoever your parents go out and find for you cuz you are too insecure to get "into a relationship" on your own. I pity the girl you would try to pick up with your classic pick up lines like "are you a virgin" or "come to me my sweet jalebi"
ok, so what should one do on sohag ratt?
This is what I got from islam.tc
Here is the full text:
ETIQUETTES OF THE FIRST NIGHT
In the ideal Islamic situation, the husband and wife will most probably be total strangers to each other, having no kind of personal contact with each other previously due to the strict laws of hijab and pardah in the Shariah. Coupled with this feeling of strangeness are the natural constraints of haya and modesty, that form an integral part of Imaan. Under the particular circumstances it is quite natural that both the husband and wife will be extremely bashful of each other and under considerable strain and anxiety.
In order to “break the ice”, they firstly greet each other with the
traditional Islamic greetings of salaam. Thereafter the husband should
gently place his right hand on his bride’s forehead and recite, ‘Allaahumma
inniy as-aluka min khayrihaa wa khayri maa feehaa wa khayra maa jabaltahaa alayhi, Wa a’oodhu bika min sharrihaa wa sharri maa feehaa wa sharri maa jabaltahaa alayhi’ (Translation; "O Allah 1 I ask You of her goodness, the good within her and the goodness upon which she was created. I seek Your protection from her evil, the evil within her and the evil upon which she was created.)
Thereafter, wudhu and two rakats of Salatul-Hajah maybe offered as a token of gratitude and thereby requesting assistance from Allah [Rabbul-Izzat] for a successful and blessed marriage, pious offspring, etc.
Thereafter, they may read some Deeni literature to each other, particularly on the topic of Nikah, etc.
and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
wasssssup !
I think that is totally coool, awesome stuff that he just explained.
Mashallah !