Suhaag Raat Hai

[S02]

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mudassar88: But people do make mistakes and if they sincerely repent, we should not discriminate against them. It is not our place to judge. They may become very good Muslims.

...sorry for going off topic.

Zapp: her body, her decision. You can't force it on her. It needs to be a decision that she is involved in and comfortable with.

[PhatBalongri]

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• 024.026 * YUSUFALI: Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity: these are not affected by what people say: for them there is forgiveness, and a provision honourable.

[Zapp]

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@PhatBalongri

* 024.026 * YUSUFALI: Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity: these are not affected by what people say: for them there is forgiveness, and a provision honourable.

What if you've got an impure man and a pure women who is willing to do anything for a British visa?

Surely allowances can be made.

[Anil_Khan]

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^ Noone's going to sell their imaan for your stupid visa.

[Zapp]

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@Sahar02

Zapp: her body, her decision. You can't force it on her. It needs to be a decision that she is involved in and comfortable with.

I never mentioned forcing anything on her.

[S02]

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^ I was referring to the birth control pill.

[Zapp]

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@Anil Khan

^ Noone's going to sell their imaan for your stupid visa.

What planet are you living on?

There's families queing up in Pakistan wanting to get their daughter married off to a British husband.

[Anil_Khan]

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@Zapp

What planet are you living on?

There's families queing up in Pakistan wanting to get their daughter married off to a British husband.

Granted there are families who would love their daughters to get married to western guys. However, if they know that you've been around the block and stuck your stick in anything that moves then, I'm sorry to tell you, they won't even consider spitting on your face.

[Afridi786]

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Zapp just joined GS to start some trouble.

[Zapp]

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Listen, they dont care and they don want to know. Ignorance is bliss.

Its not a bad thing. Everyone gets what they want. The girls get a much better quality of life. The guys get a religous and pious wife, and invariably stop their bad habits to settles down.

[Zapp]

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@Afridi786

Zapp just joined GS to start some trouble.

This was supposed to be a serious discussion, and i think it still is. These are issues that all young Pakistanis in the west have to deal with.

[S02]

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@Zapp

Listen, they dont care and they don want to know. Ignorance is bliss.

Its not a bad thing. Everyone gets what they want. The girls get a much better quality of life. The guys get a religous and pious wife, and invariably stop their bad habits to settles down.

Marriage isn’t that simple, and neither is life. Don’t start off a relationship with mistrust and lies. Things won’t just magically all work out.

[Sara516]

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@Zapp

Listen, they dont care and they don want to know. Ignorance is bliss.

Its not a bad thing. Everyone gets what they want. The girls get a much better quality of life. The guys get a religous and pious wife, and invariably stop their bad habits to settles down.

See this is what is so infuriating. All you guys think that girls here are not religious or pious at all, even the hijabis are usually under "attacK" for being too snobby coz they wont shake hands iwht a dude, or too hypocritical coz they wanna match theri sneakers to their hijab, and you will have sex with many (or one) and think that you deserve a "religious" and pious girl when you are not religious or pious yourself. Read the verse barfee posted carefully: Impure men for impure women and pure men for pure women. If you're not pure, do not think you are entitled to or deserve a pure woman or that a pure woman will fix your "impurity."

[Zapp]

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I dont know if people on here are being ignorant or they just arent seeing the things i see.

In my city i see guys much worse than me getting married just to please their parents. The wife comes over and stays at home while the guy carrys on as before. Everyone seems to be happy, the wife is treated well by the familiy, and none of these marriages end in divorce. Im not justifying this, but its the reality we live in.

I have always maintained that i will settle down when the time comes for marriage, will genuinely love my wife and would never lie to her or mistreat her.

[Sara516]

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Thas another issue.. many families assume that marriage is the solution for a "wild" son.. that a good wife from pak will come and fix his bad habits, sorry but that is very paindu thinking.. no one can ever change unless they truly want to change, and no sharmeeli wife or child(ren) can fix an awara-garddy man

[system]

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@Sara516

See this is what is so infuriating. All you guys think that girls here are not religious or pious at all, even the hijabis are usually under “attacK” for being too snobby coz they wont shake hands iwht a dude, or too hypocritical coz they wanna match theri sneakers to their hijab, and you will have sex with many (or one) and think that you deserve a “religious” and pious girl when you are not religious or pious yourself. Read the verse barfee posted carefully: Impure men for impure women and pure men for pure women. If you’re not pure, do not think you are entitled to or deserve a pure woman.

:k:

[Zapp]

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@Sara516

See this is what is so infuriating. All you guys think that girls here are not religious or pious at all, even the hijabis are usually under "attacK" for being too snobby coz they wont shake hands iwht a dude, or too hypocritical coz they wanna match theri sneakers to their hijab, and you will have sex with many (or one) and think that you deserve a "religious" and pious girl when you are not religious or pious yourself. Read the verse barfee posted carefully: Impure men for impure women and pure men for pure women. If you're not pure, do not think you are entitled to or deserve a pure woman.

I'll admit most of the Pakistani girls over here are ok.

Let me tell you something. When you see a guy you can usually tell if he is a "chiller" by the way he acts, dresses and/or talks to you. But with Paki girls its a mystery. Quite a few of them put on a charade. They will wear hijab sometimes to act religous as a cover, and when they are with their mates at college/university they will take it off and be completly different.

[AnGeL_EyEs]

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@Zapp

I dont know if people on here are being ignorant or they just arent seeing the things i see.

In my city i see guys much worse than me getting married just to please their parents. The wife comes over and stays at home while the guy carry on as before. Everyone seems to be happy, the wife is treated well by the familiy, and none of these marriages end in divorce. Im not justifying this, but its the reality we live in.

I** have always maintained that i will settle down when the time comes for marriage, will genuinely love my wife and would never lie to her or mistreat her**.

Glad to hear that...but dont you think it's a bit unfair to want a good shareef paki wife when your not like that yourself? I mean if you get one like that...great but what about the girls that are a lot like you....had their fun b4 marriage but want to settle down after marriage. Are you going to automatically dismiss them?

getting back to the topic.....I def want to get to know the guy before i marry him (even if its arranged by parents) so that i can feel comfortable enough to have sex with him on our wedding night. I think it's best to let the girl be the guide. :D So that she can go according to her pace and comfort level.

[Impulse]

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@Zapp

Hey guys! Im new to these forums, so i’ll let you know who i am:

21
Male
Pakistani Muslim
Born & Living in England

For some reason ive been thinking about the “suhaag raat” lately. Obviously im not married yet, but am looking to get married within the next 1 - 5 years. My bride will most likely be from Pakistan. Unfortunatley i am no longer a virgin and have been pretty sexually active. Because of this im not so worried about the first time with my new bride. However, when i do get married i want to give my wife some time to get used to me before acually having full intercourse. I think it would be better once she is comfortable with me. Also, if a women is tense during her first time it is likely to hurt her more.

What do you people think should happen on the “suhaag raat”? Do women expect to have sex? More importantly do they want to have sex on the first night?

I am not asking for any advice, what i really want to know is how other people feel about this.

get married to a girl who is no longer a virgin and has been sexually active. that way you both wont have any problems:halo:

[Sara516]

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Ur rite, some do act crazy and put on a front, but guess what, that's no excuse to call em all sluts or just bad news.. whatever happend to getting to know someone for who they are rather than assuming they all sneak around.. If girls were as open as guys were they'd have the trashiest reputation.. going by what I know so far and what ive seen, in places wehre theres too many desis together, a reputation can be easily ruined by 1 wrong step..