Hey guys! Im new to these forums, so i’ll let you know who i am:
21
Male
Pakistani Muslim
Born & Living in England
For some reason ive been thinking about the “suhaag raat” lately. Obviously im not married yet, but am looking to get married within the next 1 - 5 years. My bride will most likely be from Pakistan. Unfortunatley i am no longer a virgin and have been pretty sexually active. Because of this im not so worried about the first time with my new bride. However, when i do get married i want to give my wife some time to get used to me before acually having full intercourse. I think it would be better once she is comfortable with me. Also, if a women is tense during her first time it is likely to hurt her more.
What do you people think should happen on the “suhaag raat”? Do women expect to have sex? More importantly do they want to have sex on the first night?
I am not asking for any advice, what i really want to know is how other people feel about this.
** What do you people think should happen on the "suhaag raat"? **
There is no set rule. Everything depends on how close you are to the woman emotionally and physically. If you are not close in either way then the sensible thing to do would be to wait.
** Do women expect to have sex? **
Are u stupid?
** More importantly do they want to have sex on the first night?**
you answered my question here.
Like lajjo said, find urself someone wiht the same experience level as you In fact, I suggest finding a bride in your very own England.. after all, Paki girls in UK are bound to be sexually active
And what about Paki girls in the US/Canada? Same or different..? If you swear by statistics they come close for the general population (viz. metrics like the age at which girls loses virginity (which hovers around 16 for both parts of the world) or how often girls indulge in sex or sexual affairs indirectly(like 3 times a week)):halo:
Like i said im not really looking for advice. What i really wanted to know was what people in a similar position were planning to do, or have done. Im nosey bugger.
I definately dont want a wife who is at the same level as me.
Besides, you’ll be hard pressed to find a Pakistani girl that low.
There is no point in trying to find an eligible Pakistani girl in England. Half of them have been round the block, and theres no way to distinguish them from the good half. Id rather not take the chance.
Let me give you a brief run down of why i dont particulalry like Paki girls over here:
*Lies and Deciet *- Constanlty having to lie to their parents to cover up what they are really upto. Doing stuff like wearing a hijab when leaving home, and then taking it off at college/university.
Romeo and Juliet - Get all their influence from Bollywood films, and believe in fairytale love stories. Will go out with you for months and the furthest you will get to is first base.
Incredibly High Maintenence - You've got to put loads of time and effort in to get very little in return. Kind of like that big machine in Back To The Future III that makes ice.
]Boring* - Impossible to have a stimulating intelligent conversation with.
Theres more but i dont want to offend too much.
Let me give you a brief run down of why i dont particulalry like Paki girls over here:
*Lies and Deciet *- Constanlty having to lie to their parents to cover up what they are really upto. Doing stuff like wearing a hijab when leaving home, and then taking it off at college/university.
Romeo and Juliet - Get all their influence from Bollywood films, and believe in fairytale love stories. Will go out with you for months and the furthest you will get to is first base.
Incredibly High Maintenence - You've got to put loads of time and effort in to get very little in return. Kind of like that big machine in Back To The Future III that makes ice.
Boring - Impossible to have a stimulating intelligent conversation with.
Theres more but i dont want to offend too much.
And whats up with goris.. I guess they are much much worse..
1) Truthfulness: They dont lie at all and you come to know that they had 30 ex bfs from across the globe that they dated and have opinions about parts of the world based on their dates and not TV/media/geography book. You hear cockeyed views.. take this, "My ex was a Paki... well seems Pakis arent well endowed"
2) R&J: They dont believe in love.. sex happens like $hit but unfortunately love doesnt
3) Maintenance? If they find you loaded with $$, they will ask for anything- from buying a movie ticket to a diamond ring that can empty your bank balance.
4) Boring? Oh they aren't boring.. they wear seductively are great in bed.. know well everything from vanilla to anal and everything in between.. thats where they score over their desi counterparts..
So disturbing on so many levels. And you still think you’re not gonna offend anyone? seriously bro go find urself someone whos been around as much as you have.. shabash
Let me give you a brief run down of why i dont particulalry like Paki girls over here:
*Lies and Deciet *- Constanlty having to lie to their parents to cover up what they are really upto. Doing stuff like wearing a hijab when leaving home, and then taking it off at college/university.
Romeo and Juliet - Get all their influence from Bollywood films, and believe in fairytale love stories. Will go out with you for months and the furthest you will get to is first base.
Theres more but i dont want to offend too much.
So.. if a girl dates, she's a slut .. been around teh block, one of the bad ones , whatever.. But you actually have the nerve to complain about a girl who won't give it up to you??
I really wonder how guys get such sick mentalities from. These same guys who will lock up their sisters because they are very nazook and will be looked at by evil filthy guys, have no problem dating a girl, putting her down because she's too liberal that shes dating, that she's too decietful coz she's sneaking around or coz shes too stuck up coz she wont give you any.. arghh
aint that the truth, tho u forgot Paki girls in US…
im sure I would have know the girl for sometime before actual marriage takes place even if its arranged..so i see no problem in consummating it, tho I wouldnt know what to do..
For some reason ive been thinking about the "suhaag raat" lately. Obviously im not married yet, but am looking to get married within the next 1 - 5 years. My bride will most likely be from Pakistan. Unfortunatley i am no longer a virgin and have been pretty sexually active. Because of this im not so worried about the first time with my new bride. However, when i do get married i want to give my wife some time to get used to me before acually having full intercourse. I think it would be better once she is comfortable with me. Also, if a women is tense during her first time it is likely to hurt her more.
What do you people think should happen on the "suhaag raat"? Do women expect to have sex? More importantly do they want to have sex on the first night?
I am not asking for any advice, what i really want to know is how other people feel about this.
Its sad really that a horndog like you will go to Pakistan and marry some shareef girl. I hope you have the decency to tell the girl's family about your haram actions so that they know what kind of fellow you are.
This is a lesson for all of us; just because one is born into a muslim family does NOT mean that he/she is muslim; they can also be KAFIRS.
Yeah getting back to ur question.. Since you’ve already had ur fun, i suggest letting her take a bit of control for that first time. If she feels comfortable, go for it, if she resists, be respectful of her shyness and don’t rush it. Do not be like some guys who get so frustrated that they don’t care about her feelings and enjoyment and just do it to get it over with. I’ve heard several instances of this happening, the guy will literally force it the first few times. :no:
Much of Pakistani society conditions women to be “pure” i.e., keeping them separate from boys in school, no formal sex education other than pornography or friends or hearsay (that I know of anyway).. and the second they get married they’re expected to have sex and enjoy it. Not to mention if a woman appears to enjoy anything or look forward to it, the guy MIGHT assume she’s had experience before. Its really wrong and twisted but unfortunately true..
@zapp you are new so am i but i have to say you are a sick person,you can go and sleep with anyone who you want but when you want to marry you are looking for a pakistani virgin ........... now listen i am boiling here......at people like you i really get pissed, you don,t deserve a pakistani girl heck if it was in my hand you wouldn,t deserve any girl even a prostiute.
In fact, I suggest finding a bride in your very own England.. after all, Paki girls in UK are bound to be sexually active 
