Suggestions Required on Marital Issue

Lifestyle Relationships
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^ and now i am doubting if it was even a real problem or some 'madeup' issues....

oh well

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oh come on that's a little too much dont u thinK?

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gs83 its easy to let feelings overpower us but stop this madness while you can and make up your mind about what you want to do either you want to be with this girl who is a cheater or you want to be with your fiancee who we know nothing of so far

either way what you did and continue to do is totally wrong and i have no pity and no further advice for you

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even though it was bad to try to get some alone time with that girl, isn't it sort of a blessing in disguise that u found her texts? i mean, if i was a guy,i would definitely be turned off by a girl flirting with 2 guys, and woh bhi shaadi shuda guys! i think this should make u realize the true character of the girl, and also before u engage in any herominess, concentrate your energy on your sweet fiance...who ISN"T cheating on any married guy...who is only thinking of you. At least reciprocate her feelings OR just break it off.

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This is a real shame for your fiance. As other posters have said, this happens, once we get engaged or married our sense don't die. Even women will notice a guy who seems nicer/more handsome than their husbands. It's each person's choice what they then do with that attraction. I would do nothing personally, because thinking about looking my husband in the face and knowing I had lied to him would be too much for me.

Your fiance sounds like a really nice girl, but she may not necessarily be the one for you. In short, yuo can't have your cake and eat it too. You may go for this current girl, and then realise that she's modern, social, fun to be with etc. but she doesn't take care for you, pray for you etc. You may marry your fiance and the reverse could happen. Decide once and for all what your life priorities are in your partner.

As for your fiance, I'd say she's better off without you. You need to put yourself in her shoes and try to imagine the immense pain she would suffer if she ever found out. This girl has already made a special place in her heart and prayers for you. While you're snooping through your girlfriend's (that's what she is) mobile, your fiance is dreaming of a future and a family with you. You are basically p*ssing all over the beautiful life she is dreaming of with you.

I am not judging you, so I hope it doesn't sound that way. You are romantically involved with another woman. Don't you think your humble and trusting fiance deserves a man who dreams dreams of a future with her instead of sneaking around with another woman?

We all get attracted, that's how we're tested. It doesn't stop after marriage you know! But a happy and committed marriage takes honesty and willpower, you need to turn your attention to cultivating both those aspects. It's better to release your fiance now than to start your life with her based on a lie.

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It appears you have strong feelings for your gf. If you are going to proceed with the marriage, you will have to break up all ties with her. She doesn't seem worth it anyway.