Suggestions Required on Marital Issue

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i m confused....y did she hand it over 2 u if she had those msgs?!? n why wud she even alert u beforehand kinda making sure u read them....r u sure she didnt do it on purpose and perhaps wants out....ok i m confused....in any case u shudnt be havin anything to do with her since u r engaged...either break the engagement or straighten yourself.

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i love how most ppl are blaming the girl. as usual.

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Maham got a point.... i dont get it either....if she had these msgs and didnt wanted you to read....she could've deleted it incase.....but no she didnt, infact she told you not to read her msgs.... kinda persuading you to read it

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either this is a ridiculously funny joke or this bhai saab here is utterly and throughly confused.

this mistress girl if she is real sounds like she has serious security and mental issues

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*I dont know what a mod squad family is. It may seem like Im bashing her to you, I am. The reason is simple: your fiance deserves to know she is marrying a man who is 100% committed to her and no less. She is getting the short end of the stick here: a man who is emotionally committed to someone else. Whats her fault in all of this? She trusted you. *

You need to drop everything and make sure you spend the rest of your life making it up to the girl who has prayed for you, been faithful to you and is entirely innocent in this drama.

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hmmm be a man and grow up!!

~and this is my serious advice!

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First things first THIS IS A MARITAL ISSUE for your wife to be.
you are a plain cheater. Until you get caught by future wife its not even an issue.
Stop grieving over a cheating B.
SINCE YOU HAVE SPENT A NIGHT WITH THAT B no biggie you read through her msg.

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P.S. i couldve gave a better advice than this…:hehe:

When did you sleep yesterday?
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Wow.........soo true......I dont know why you are confused and hurt when you knew what you were doing all along.
The person going to be most affected is your Fiancee for no fault of hers other than she trusted and had faith in you.......
yuk...:(

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do break off your engagement , whatever else you might decide.

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i have seen some buggered up posts here but this one takes the cake. you are a fine piece of work.

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wow man!!!
after flirting wth ur wife to be that much, still u think u r Innocent?? and need advices, i thing u r smart enough to take ur decisions very well, not to mention the fact that sum one has said earlier that " U dont deserve ur Fiance Mr. Flirt" so u better breakup this engagement. not bcz for u, but for her who deserves sumone very loyal and loving.

Only and only if u want to continue wth ur fiance, then just throw that girl out of ur life, there's no need be after her,haveing soft corner for her now wen u have already known that she has a secret affair with a married man, it means that she's no innocent at all, and will ruin ur life and future.

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I think this "having a soft spot" business is very easy to understand. It happens to all of us and is very common when romantic feelings are still immature and self-centered. Often the initial stages of romance (crushes, lust, spark of attraction) are not so much about love for another person than for ourselves. We want and seek the attention from another person because it validates us. By knowing that a specific someone is interested in us, we start to feel special. It becomes like a high -- and we start to look for interactions with the other person, hope for more attention from the other, because it makes us feel good. We encourage the attention (despite prior commitments) and cross the boundaries of propriety out of fear of losing that attention. I highly doubt (especially given your limited interaction with this woman) that you really care for her. You just like how it feels, you've let that get to your head, and you have been incredibly unfair to your fiance, who has had a far more mature and thoughtful approach toward the commitment she has made to you. You think she wouldn't like to attention from other men? You think she's satisfied completely by a few phone conversations with a distant fiance? It's unlikely. But she's restrained herself due to maturity, dignity and respect. She deserves someone who has the same attitude toward relationships. Not someone so self-involved that he would let a relationship with another woman get so out of hand.

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Good partners are hard to come by. You should be grateful to Allah that you have a fiance who loves you alot, is pious mashallah and prays for you. What guy wouldnt want that? You should count yourself lucky.

Sounds so sad and sick to me that your wedding is coming up and you have started having a relationship with someone who you have only known for a minute. You went to your girlfriends house and spent time with her alone. Did you not have any guilt in your heart that you have a loving fiance who might just be dreaming about her wedding and marriage to you yet you are having fun with another girl?

This is just a fling! Break it off with this girl instantly and if i were you, i would actually sit down and think if im really ready for marriage? You are confused right now!

Made me abit angry that you got hurt when you read your girlfriends text msgs and felt betrayed that she is communicating with another guy...yet how would you feel if your fiance found out that you are having a relationship with someone else!

Sorry - but this is just so so sad!

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Your fiance sounds like a gold mine: she is educated, religious, well mannered, cultured, in love with you, prays for you, respects you, etc.

Yet you're comparing her with a woman who is having an affair with an engaged man and still is in love with a married man. HOW????????

A QUALITY partner is VERY hard to come by.

I think some posters might be right...if you're so torn about this decision you cant even make up your mind when the answer is SO OBVIOUS...maybe you're not ready for marriage. Maybe your fiance deserves someone more her equal?

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Seriously you and the office girl deserve each other. Break your engagement with your fiancée as she deserves some one better than you. Also then you'll be free to pursue the other girl freely. The person who is at fault here is you, sort out your life because it is going to get harder and messier. You will end up hurting a lot of people so stop and use your brain.

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^ I was just going to say that rainyday! The office girl and him are a match made in heaven. :halo: Both are confused about not only themselves but their cultural values, norms and customs and may be even faith!

Now, I want to cry for his fiancee. What a jerk you are dude.

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sorry to say but ur office girl sounds like a right drama queen , but your no less .

i dont know why your confused at all . karma got the better of u and took a big bite our of your backside

anways your poor poor fiance , in a way its better that u get with office girl as ur fiance sounds too good for u . it is obvious you are more happy with the cheater than the one who prays for u and loves u a lot .

so go on n be with the girlfrend

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Oh and do you by any chance work with Abracadabra!?

And are you in Pakistan by any chance? What's with all this workplace drama in Pakistan!!!????

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I dont think he's gonna come back and reply...hope he realises what he is doing!