So i am going through the rishta process right now. I have known the guy for 2 years now. The families have only started to exchange calls thus far no one has yet met one another since he lives in another state. His sister lives in the same city as us so my family invited her along with her husband and a 9 year old daughter over for dinner. Do we need to buy any gifts for them? Im clueless!
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No.
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sorry the daughter is 9 months* old. Not even something for her? I know people usually give money or something to children?
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sorry the daughter is 9 months* old. Not even something for her? I know people usually give money or something to children?
Get her some 10$ toy from Babie R Us.
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ok so in 2 weeks my parents will be going to meet them in their city. How about at that time?
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sorry the daughter is 9 months* old. Not even something for her? I know people usually give money or something to children?
Would you get a gift for any other family who came to your home for the first time with their child? Honestly, I wouldn't.
I give gifts to children of family friends because I know them. When I go to someone's home, I usually bring flowers or a cake or a box of chocolates or maybe candles or a decoration piece for their home - but that's in appreciation of the host entertaining me.
The whole layna/dayna because of a potential rishta doesn't appeal to me.
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they may consider a gift the yummy food that you will serve to them!!! 
if you wish, give them the doggy bag 
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Oh its more than just a potential rishta. Inshallah we both will be getting married. His parents have already asked for a rishta a while back over the phone but my side of the family took their sweetest time and now things will finally move forward at my insist because I want to get married to him. I just wanted to know if traditionally we should give them any thing because i dont want anything going wrong.
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^ If it's a formal rishta situation and you want to get a gift for the daughter (as her future mumaani) then sure, do so. I wouldn't go overboard - just get a small token - you want to show that you thought about them as opposed to being out to impress them.
And as for going to their home, definitely take a small hostess gift for his mom, but get something for the household as opposed to for his mom in particular.
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Just take a cake or something nice to eat when you guys go over to their place :).
Good-luck!
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unless you get a ring on your finger, there is no need to buy the whole tabbar (including the baby) gifts.
take it from me..the more you do in the beginning, the more they expect of you later on. and when there comes a time for some reason you dont meet their expectations, all hell breaks loose.
seriously.
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Thank you guys! do you think maybe my mom can just drop some cash for the baby since thats what generally we do in our family ? or maybe just a suit for the sister. I have seen that a lot too. I know last year when his family wanted to come to our house he told me that they had bought gifts and stuff dont know what or if it was for me since their intention was to ask for a rishta and do a baat paki but due to something it didnt happen. In any case it will just be a small gesture for a special guest and not to impose a layna dayna tradition
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^ that looks good!
I am just avoiding the embarrassment if they show up with gifts and we don't lol
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^ that looks good!
I am just avoiding the embarrassment if they show up with gifts and we don't lol
Always keep couple of generic gifts in the trunk. I have found that 8/10$ crystal decoration pieces makes great gifts for pretty much everyone.
You ammi can always blame it on your abbu "aaap nai bag choor deya trunk main...jaeen lai aeen"
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Yah, you can do that :).
Lols 
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Have you been spending time with TLK?! 
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Always keep couple of generic gifts in the trunk. I have found that 8/10$ crystal decoration pieces makes great gifts for pretty much everyone.
You ammi can always blame it on your abbu "aaap nai bag choor deya trunk main...jaeen lai aeen"
hahaha
so i think something small would be a nice gesture. Cash for my neice in law would do =)
Thank you all!
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Why can't a nice meal ....which is hard work as it is....be enough?
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I don't think it would be a big deal sort of a thing if i didn't but I am meeting some one from my would be in-laws for the first time i just think its a nice thought