dear all em a silent member of GS, i found you all so helping , wanted to discuss a personal matter regarding my proposal.
let me introduce abt myself. i belong to urdu speaking family, from karachi. My mother passed away and hence my elder sis and dad are worried for me to get married. My sis actually found a proposal for me from matrimonial sites. The guy is citizen of UAE, he n his family liked my pics and he had talked to my and his mother has talked to my sis regarding me. So far they seems to be serious. I have also talked to the guy on fone a couple of times. He is well settled, educated and all his family is educated. he is mature and 4-5yrs elder then me, But his accent of talking is like when pushto speaking speaks urdu…. They says that they are urdu speaking… but his accent turns me off. :s
Though they have plans to visit pk after eid. I m hoping I wud like him in person… my elder sis and dad are liking the proposal so much and looking fwd for them to visit pk. I don’t know y there is sum sort of fear insight my heart.. thought he says that he likes me so much…but there is something pulling me back. L I don’t kno its bcz of his pathani accent or a natural fear that every girl faces….. I cant figure out what’s it exactly….
That fear is there for a good reason, just read dua hun and do dua istikhara.
If he has lived in UAE all his life, he isn't goign to be fluent speaking Urdu , I have an accent because Urdu is my 2nd language so I wouldn't reject him on that basis..
See how it goes, meet him, Meet his mum.. If you can love them you can get over the accent
put it off (or ask your sis to put it off) till you guys meet in person. unfortunately introduction and communication through phone, email etc means nothing when it comes to judging people specially if they are newly introduced.
my own begum says sometimes “you were so nice when we used to talk on phone, aap itney ZALIM hoon gaaai mujhey tu andaza bhi nahi tha”
I think it's a mixture of that natural fear/stress (that is not uncommon regarding marriage and rishtas) and your dislike of his accent.
We can't really give yoiu an advice other than that you'll have WAIT and see what he is really like when he comes to visit. Keep in mind that this guy lives outside of Pak...thus making it harder to do an investigation.....but it still needs to be done. Get to know him...ask him all the questions you have in your mind about him....etc. And if you STILL feel that he is not the right guy for you.....then be strong in your decision to not marry him. But for now...all you can do is wait.
You need to do your homework of finding everything about this guy and his family . People are known to have multiple women from everywhere and run prostitution rings.
Nobody other than An Arab living in UAE can be citizen of UAE. If they sound like someone from Pakistan and claim to be UAE citizen that might be a lie.
I am being skeptical as you are against this rishta , so please , please , please make sure that they are what they are claiming to be.
Other than that Urdu accent of someone should not be a deal breaker. Ever Urdu Speaking folks have many accents. Ever heard a Hyderabadi or Bihari speaking Urdu ?
put it off (or ask your sis to put it off) till you guys meet in person. unfortunately introduction and communication through phone, email etc means nothing when it comes to judging people specially if they are newly introduced.
You need to do your homework of finding everything about this guy and his family . People are known to have multiple women from everywhere and run prostitution rings.
Nobody other than An Arab living in UAE can be citizen of UAE. If they sound like someone from Pakistan and claim to be UAE citizen that might be a lie.
I am being skeptical as you are against this rishta , so please , please , please make sure that they are what they are claiming to be.
Other than that Urdu accent of someone should not be a deal breaker. Ever Urdu Speaking folks have many accents. Ever heard a Hyderabadi or Bihari speaking Urdu ?
they said that his grandfather was from Iran and moved to uae and married to a paki. this is the main reason of his accent being more like pathans. his grandfather was settled in uae and similarly his father and himself. there fore he has the citizenship
That fear is there for a good reason, just read dua hun and do dua istikhara.
If he has lived in UAE all his life, he isn't goign to be fluent speaking Urdu , I have an accent because Urdu is my 2nd language so I wouldn't reject him on that basis..
See how it goes, meet him, Meet his mum.. If you can love them you can get over the accent
yeah, i have to do the istekhara aswell.... thanks for reminding :)
I think it's a mixture of that natural fear/stress (that is not uncommon regarding marriage and rishtas) and your dislike of his accent.
We can't really give yoiu an advice other than that you'll have WAIT and see what he is really like when he comes to visit. K*eep in mind that this guy lives outside of Pak...thus making it harder to do an investigation.....but it still needs to be done*. Get to know him...ask him all the questions you have in your mind about him....etc. And if you STILL feel that he is not the right guy for you.....then be strong in your decision to not marry him. But for now...all you can do is wait.
yeah em waiting to meet him in person, i cant take my decision , its too early to decide anything....
yeah my dad is conscious enough as well. saying if he will like the guy after meeting and all. he will ask for the passport to make sure our doubts. also my dad will be visiting UAE if me and my family like him for some essential investigations.
they said that his grandfather was from Iran and moved to uae and married to a paki. this is the main reason of his accent being more like pathans. his grandfather was settled in uae and similarly his father and himself. there fore he has the citizenship
That is possible. I have a friend whose grand father moved to KSA and they are citizen of KSA , but their Urdu is beautiful because they visit Karachi for months at a time and have successful business in KSA and Karachi.
This guy might not have been so lucky so that is why he has this kind of Urdu accent,
That is possible. I have a friend whose grand father moved to KSA and they are citizen of KSA , but their Urdu is beautiful because they visit Karachi for months at a time and have successful business in KSA and Karachi.
This guy might not have been so lucky so that is why he has this kind of Urdu accent,
yeah i asked him y do u speak like that?? he said that most of his gathering is indians and arabs there, thats y his urdu is not that gud. though my sis talked to his mother.. said she speaks urdu as normal as we do..
also i told him that my dad will be visiting to uae to see ur business and all, he said my dad can visit anytime he want and confer abt any issue...not an issue for him
That is possible. I have a friend whose grand father moved to KSA and they are citizen of KSA , but their Urdu is beautiful because they visit Karachi for months at a time and have successful business in KSA and Karachi.
This guy might not have been so lucky so that is why he has this kind of Urdu accent,
yeah he said that he has just visited karachi 2wice in his life whole :(
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