Re: stupid old me!
understand your hesitations but you, yourself have identified that your relationship with ur daadi is coloring ur view of how ur daughter’s daadi behaves with her… ur situation was different…ur daughter’s is different… there is no reason to doubt the love ur MIL feels for her own son’s daughter..it’s just ur own issues with ur daadi that are causing u to feel that way (good thing is you Identified that urself, so every time you find urself thinking that way grab urself by the shoulders give urself a good shake and say stop it nadz…ur daughter’s daadi is not ur daadi…she honestly loves her granddaughter)
as for ur SIL, i understand ur hesitation there too…but no matter how old an SIL is even if she was older than u…u should try to bond. like you would with a new girlfriend you were trying to make close friends with …and the only reason why i said you should make more efforts especially in front of your hubz is so that even if no one reciprocates your efforts at least hubz will be witness to the fact that you have been trying…this will make him feel more protective of you…but dont make the mistake of being friendly in front of him but mean behind his back…