stupid old me!

HappyGoLucky · May 9, 2011, 4:34am

Re: stupid old me!

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HOW was she in the beginning? thing is its harder for me since im their niece, and the MIL uses that against me cos im from her husbands side not hers. shes all acting. she says things to my mum. and me. shes always going to not like me cos she doesnt like anyone from her husbands side, although she tries to hide it.
they already have assumptions of me, and she says things like oh ur mum is the same…( in anything i do that she doesnt like)…so its harder. yet shes as sweet as pie infront of her husband and mine to me.

she will be be very nice only to later on throw it in my face. for eg- she took my daugfhter into her room and tried to make her slp.
the next day she told people ohh saari raat i was looking after the baby, she only sleeps with me, im so tired i havent slpt, her mum was alsp all night without a care in the world…

so its hard to fit into a family like this. u mashallah were a very loving family from the start. i dnt have that. they are not tooooo bad, its just alot of b******* really, she doesnt like. and thats that.

Its just been 4 months of her marriage and she has been this way from the very first week. One thing id suggest is, no matter how bad the times get and no matter how hard the situation seems never ever be rude to your mil. If you respect her then only you will get your due respect from every one as well.

As for not having a nice family, umm we have a lot many people trying to play their negative role too but none of us have ever permitted any one to speak about our bhabis. What ever happens remains between us. Never has any one of us ever complained about any of my bhabis to any one outside the family. They know we love them and we get more love in return. Honestly, situations are much much more complex in many houses. You’re alhamdullilah lucky that your husband is so supportive. A majority of girls are seriously lonely because there is no one at all they can turn to. If you show them your bad side its just going to strengthen your mils dislike for you and the family. You have to prove her wrong - take positive initiatives is all i think you should do.