wats up with all these guys forcing their wives to take hijabs off? People end up ruining their marriages over this. Why are guys so embarrased of their own identity? We ARE muslims n whether we show it or not doesnt make a diff, then why force someone to change the way they are? I thought it was a problem only here but i read it in a mag which means its all over the place especially with desi guys cuz they need to show off their wives i guess. A guy who needs to feel good about himself by putting his wife on display just isnt man enough i think 
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just coz you read it in a magazine doesn’t mean it happens everywhere! Also, it doesn’t mean all MEN are like that.. chill kuri and relax
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Why are their wives so weak as to comply with their husbands rather than do what they believe that God has commanded them to do?
After all, surely they consider a command from God to be more important than one from their husbands.
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^ they are not, thats why they get divorced, please dont prove the title of my thread right :p
ansoon it is a problem n it needs to be solved. Why r men stupid enough to marry somene who does hijab in the first place?
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Mad Scientist you make a good point...the girl should have a enough backbone to stand up and say no to her husband...i assume she wears the hijab because she wants to obey Allah so surely Allah over-rides her husbands stupid views...
One guy that used to be my friend...his father threatened to divorce his wife because she suddenly started wearing hijab...because it wouldnt be suitable for certain places they go...shes taken it off now...because obviously her desire to wear hijab wasnt as important as her husband...im not saying hes not an idiot because thats obvious...but she should stand up for herself more...
If the wife suddenly starts wearing hijab then it can be a change which isnt easy to deal with...but if she has always worn it...and you married her with it then its quite stupid to start changing the rules now...
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they want dhoodh dhuli girls to marry n then they wanna strip their hijabs off?
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Why are those women stupid enough to marry men who don’t like hijabs? Why not check on that issue BEFORE getting married rather than afterwards?
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cuz a man SEES a woman wearing a hijab but a woman doesnt know wats inside a mans heart like HALOOOOO
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Isn’t it like, a bit of a clue if his family doesn’t wear hijab? And why can’t she just ask “I wear hijab, are you going to be cool with that?” before getting married?
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NO cuz if a guy approaches a hijabi, wants to marry her it is assumed hes ok with the way she is..especially when shes right and hes WRONG
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Maddie you being a bit naive here, people change over time. Your opinion of an issue at the age of 23 may change at the age of 33 and so forth, circumstances and all?
About the whole disregarding your husbands wishes? Do you guys realise this is a desi board and the lovely Tikhi has desi people in mind?
Tikhi, some men need a trophy wife, end of.
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When you ASSUME, you make an ASS out of U and ME.
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My point is a frustrated critique of desi women. Too many of them are too meek to stand up and Do The Right Thing.
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MM yes opinions do change but I firmly believe that if the wife were to say no to her hubby giving him a reason on why she wears hijab then i am sure the hubby might have changed his opinion.
Please dont' go around accusing guys of making their wives remove hijab.. i have seen plenty of hijabi girls take their hijab off after getting engaged! I can't say it for all guys at GS or for that matter in this world but I know atleast a handful guys who respect their wives wearing hijab and encourage it .. it is a great act and takes guts to wear hijab and these guys fully understand that..
so as i said earlier.. chill kuri and drink a dhandha glass of pani :)
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Serioulsy love, how many times has this been discussed? Until you have been in any situation any woman has, I think you should try and refrain from judging women who are too "meek".
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i dont assume but in desi culture unmarried ppl hardly get to talk let alone sit there n discuss wat each other likes..but the guy SEES it n yet he marries someone who isnt into showing herself off to other ppl? Stop blaming it on girls when you know its the guys fault
Ansoon i know girls like that too…but most of the times they are influenced by the guy n they are stupid enough to risk their next life for some guy who doesnt even respect their beliefs.
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Miss Mohabbat...
what else is it then?...fair enough you compromise in marriage...but if its your belief that you should wear hijab then you shouldnt let your husband push you around over it...you should stand up for yourself...fair enough its a desi forum...that doesnt discount the fact that they should have a bit of backbone...
Trust if i got with a white gal and lived a certain lifestyle where we were always out clubbin...i bought her short skirts blah blah...do you honestly think she will accept me telling her i want you to dress more modestly...hardly fair is it...hey thats just her personal pride...with the hijab we're talking about something which you do cos you want to please Allah...
So blame the man...thats fine but please dont try and abscond any blame from the woman for actually listening to her husband...
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^ it basically comes down to saving your marriage or wearing the hijab..its the husbands fault for putting her in this situation. A husband should be supportive and encouraging and a real man protects his wives honor, doesnt humiliate her.
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Just because they are weak, they put their wives in such a difficult situation.
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Who says that they they have to be alone to find out if the guy is okay with the girl wearing hijab?
I’m not sayong it’s all the girls’ fault - rather, the blame is shared. It’s not an equal distribution of blame, the guy is more wrong. However, an element of the responsibility for getting into that situation rests on the girls shoulders for not being careful enough going into the marriage.