"it basically comes down to saving your marriage or wearing the hijab..its the husbands fault for putting her in this situation. A husband should be supportive and encouraging and a real man protects his wives honor, doesnt humiliate her." "Just because they are weak, they put their wives in such a difficult situation."
Ok...the fact is...a man is unlikely to actually divorce his wife over the hijab issue...hes just pushing his weight around...if the wife was to be adamant about the fact that she isnt gonna take it off...hes not going to divorce her...and if he does it doesny say much about their marriage...
And yeh i agree that a husband should be supportive and most are...but obviously we are discussing fools that arent...
And yes the men are weak...but the wifes are also weak to give in to their hisbands petty demands...the husbands would never make such a demand if they didnt sense their wife was weak...
So no-ones saying the husband is right...its just the wife is stupid for giving up her hijab...
One of my cousins had her husband leave her because she would only eat halal meat and insisted on praying 5 times a day… and she didn’t even wear hijab!
In fact, he just dropped her off at the airport in Los Angeles with a one-way ticket back to her dad in Dubai and a suitcase with some her of clothes. He told her to come back once she had chilled out… so she divorced him.
The fault there was her parents’. They married her into a family that they didn’t personally know well enough to tell whether they would accept a moderately religious girl.
In this case she did the right thing and divorced him...its pathetic for a man to divorce his wife over such an issue and in this case she stuck to her guns so good on her...she realised that this guy is a fool...who doesnt compromise...and this isnt a marriage worth saving...
And thats all im saying to Tikhi...it doesnt say much about the marriage if he will divorce his wife over such an issue...if he makes that threat...the wife should get rid of him because clearly he isnt worthy of a wife such as her...rather than compromise and be weak and give in to his silly demands...
Like say to save a marriage...the husband started asking her to wear minis cos its the Summer and he wants to look good when seen out with her...should she compromise to save her marriage or should she stick to her principles and find someone better who is more in tune with her qualities and principles...
Her parents are at fault for hooking her up with a fool...but parents tend to overlook these things for more important things like wealth blah blah...but its on the girl to stand up for herself...and not be bullied...
Thiki, what's in it for you...is that girl objecting or you are just presuming and can we pleeeez get over this men are pigs, men are stupid threads coz if men are that....and you eat their .... it'll make you . .....
I never said ALL men...but you did say men are stupid. You need to go into specifics about what desi men are doing this and why you think it is objectionable to thier wives? Then we might go into the details....right now the thread is too general.
I agree with tikhi that men are stupid, and I agree with PCG that men are pigs and I also agree with all other females who think that male specie is the worst thing that ever happened to womankind, now will you please get over us and go find a woman for yourself.
The guy is a jerk and a tosser. Sometimes women can’t divorce because say when they got married she wasn’t religiously inclined or perhaps she went through a change after being married for 10 years. In which case, pray for the husband, don’t stop taking hijab, argue your case and if he "forces" you then divorce him. Allah has better substitutes for both men and women who follow His commands. And anyways its his loss.
so she divorced him.