[quote=“PyariCgudia”] That’s retarded. I don’t get what the big deal is about cooking. If you don’t know, then you’re going to learn when you need to do it. There are more things to look at about a girl than how she cooks. As if the hubby’s tummy and penis are the only things that need to be satisfied.
Phir jab churail mil thi hai na, then all the in-laws sit there and gripe and cry about it.
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So true!
Unfortunately, this is what most people do, they look at what the skills are and if the girl is pretty. Or they look at money. Or they look at the girls western passport. Or they marry because they’re cousins.
They look at everything except what really counts: her character, her heart, her religion.
So true. It’s hard to keep unnecesary people out. Sure, if a problem can’t be solved within the family, someone trusted could be consulted. But somehow whenever something happens in a family, all kinds of wild stories start flying around. Nobody knows the origin, most of those stories aren’t even true. It all makes situations worse.
So why is it that so many parents compare their children with others? Is it a cultural thing?
It’s not a parents bashing thread. It’s trying to talk about real problems that should be acknowledged. Even parents can make mistakes.
I’m a parent of younger children. I already made some mistakes, like they lack discipline for example, my fault and I admit it. Now I’m trying to fix that.
Lets pray we all have good relationships with our parents and our kids and we all have a blessed life in this world and the next world. Ameen!
Mind your language please, I’m not blaming my childrens lack of discipline of desis, I’m talking about a problem in society. (and I never mentioned btw it’s only desis doing this, I only said it’s sad and bad they do this)
And this I am really blaming desis for, because this I haven’t seen anywhere else, the izat is so important, that even some parents resort to bad things only to protect their own izat, when they get critisism on the way they treat their child. If someone tells them ‘stop doing this to your child’ they start bringing the child down to come off better themselve. I’ve seen this from very close.
And if people would mind their own business instead of meddling UNASKED into other peoples lifes, than maybe the parents to whom izzat more important than anything right or wrong, would at least keep their heads straight and really do what they're supposed to do.
sadya how abt we talk abt IZZET later and stress on acting OWN-SELF .. i mean even u havent learnt to be YOU yet .. cant u just type urdu instead of crippeling english using ** childrenS, peopleS, lifeS ** .. and b4 u slime it on my face ..
i admit i m blended with GHETTONESS n im a straight up FOB.
n for the topic ...
huh ? like wat ?
well, i agree to the point that parents do sound nagging all over u in certain times but i thought every SANE person maybe xpect biological basttards realises that it was for their own good later in life but u still stand for the point that ur mom criticizing you/taunting you was SOCIALY WRONG ?
well, i guess GETTING married and dont even know how to cook makes it prety self-explanatory
p/s: and sry abt calling u a moron .. u can always call me worse not just while u reading my posts but even if u replying it :) .. i dont mind.
I’m not talking about spelling, I’m talking about name calling, even a word like moron yes. And no sir, I’m not interested in calling you a moron too or something worse for that matter.
well, i agree to the point that parents do sound nagging all over u in certain times but i thought every SANE person maybe xpect biological basttards realises that it was for their own good later in life but u still stand for the point that ur mom criticizing you/taunting you was SOCIALY WRONG ?
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Well, it shows you haven’t read the posts carefully. Critisizing in a NORMAL way is neccesary, or else you don’t know what you did wrong, and when you don’t know you’re wrong about something, you can’t change.
I’m talking about OVERREACTING. there are different ways of bringing a message.
But that's not why I started the thread Mister Bombastic Sir, I started it because I wondered how others feel about putting down even your own blood to gain your own izzat. Lying just to keep your izzat even if that means destroying another person.
I would keep my family stuff private. Of course you're not supposed to tell everyone your personal things unless you need objective advise. BUT if I had to choose between lying and gain my 'izat' but with that destroying another person, or telling the truth and admitting I was wrong too, I would do the second. You don't die by admitting you made a mistake too somewhere on the road. I wouldn't pour all the blame on someone else knowing I had a huge fault in something too. If I know I'm wrong, I'll be the first to admit it. If that means I have less izat, so be it. The truth is more important than destroying another person for my own izats sake.
That’s retarded. I don’t get what the big deal is about cooking. If you don’t know, then you’re going to learn when you need to do it. There are more things to look at about a girl than how she cooks. As if the hubby’s tummy and penis are the only things that need to be satisfied.