Re: stuff we do for our precious 'izat'
Aansoon, but aren't Arabs and persians all gung-ho about izzat too?
And I know the east orientals really are (ex. japanese, chinese, etc).
I think this izzat thing is a universal trait actually. I see it here even on American Soil. There's a reason why its so heavily stressed to make a good first impression. I think we're social animals, and we are very prone to judge one another. The negative is when you're doing that without looking in your own backyard first.
When raising kids, this dekha dekhi is not any good at all. Don't compare your kids to others, and don't let some outsider hurt your child by doing that either. Desis just need to be stronger and take a darn stand sometimes. We're such a passive group.