Stuck up girls

WhateverFloatsUrBoat · February 19, 2010, 1:52am

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PCG the reason you think having children is taking the easy way out is clearly because you don't have children therefore you CANNOT understand how much responsibility that role requires. Anyhow, I've noticed you're very stuck in your opinion with no room to listen to anyone elses so there's really no point in rationalizing with you.

PyariCgudia · February 19, 2010, 1:54am

Reha:

It actually requires more. Physically, there is no stopping. I took care of my niece for a month in Chicago while her mother had to attend a training in Boston…I was unemployed and volunteered my time.

It was rewarding for me because Im her khala and love her to death BUT it was HARD. I woke up with her…she woke up at 7am. She needed her teeth brushed, hair combed, diaper changed, breakfast made, fed (kids dont eat on their own, you have to sit there and feed them), a bath, change her clothes, she watched TV for an hour but during that hour…I cant leave her alone. She needs to be supervised - she was only 2 at the time. She plays for an hour or so and then its time for her lunch. We made lunch, again feeding took an hour at least. My mom would sit down with her for Quran after that and try to teach her a bit. I would then get a chance to take a break and shower, pay attention to what my hair looked like, etc. After that, some more playtime and then off for dinner. The same cycle…make dinner and then chase her so she could actually eat it. I felt like my whole day revolved around her feeding and pooping schedule. And this is just someone who is taking care of her for a little while.

Her mother manages to squeeze in some actual reading, Quran, play dates, potty training, etc in her day as well. Her father called one day to ask if she had been reading or identifying her letters…I asked him when am I supposed to do that? LOL.

PCG, I dont have children but I respect mothers who stay home and take care of their kids A LOT. It takes a LOT of brain power to skillfully mold a child into a productive member of society. Feeding and changing poopy diapers doesnt implement life-skills or character. These require a lot more then simply completing a project and clocking out at 6pm.

Ok, you need to come with me to work some day. Seriously.

sadzzz · February 19, 2010, 1:59am

Well, I work and have a kid... and i still think having a career and managing kids is harder than being at home.

PyariCgudia · February 19, 2010, 2:02am

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If you offered me to sit at home and take care of my kid and keep house, and that’s all I had to do, I would do it with so much less stress than I conduct my career. Soooo much less stress.

Like seriously. SOOOOOO much less stress.

Now, yeah, I guess if you compare raising kids and keeping house to being some bored secretary who gets paid to thumb through magazines, or some other ridiculously easy job which is ridiculously overpaid, then sure, maybe in comparison raising kids is more difficult.

But in all honesty, if you actually WORK when you go to work, and you are a productive successful professional, chances are you are working your behind off. Chances are you do more units of work than a stay at home mom.

Don’t get me wrong. I think moms have a tough job. But it gets tough when you’re dealing with a behavior problem (in which case you probably suck as a mom, because if you established rules and boundaries in the first place, your kid wouldn’t be such a troublemaker). It does not get TOUGH when you are putting on a pot of DAAL.

Trust me. I just learned to make daal ka saalan this weekend, and it is a total joke. Seriously. You ladies really shouldn’t be complaining - if that’s really all you gotta do and sugar daddy brings home diamonds for you, you are SERIOUSLY getting a great deal. Lots of reward for very little work. :k:

Some of us actually like to put ourselves through some pain and misery to get that diamond ring.

PatriotX · February 19, 2010, 2:03am

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Well, I work and have a kid... and i still think having a career and managing kids is harder than being at home.

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ya we heard you the first 4 times :) bravo handing a gold medal

another gold medal for pcg

sadzzz · February 19, 2010, 2:04am

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^ but PCG, there's a limit to working in a job thats paying u loads for doing nothing.

If u need motiviation and are wanting a challenge, u'll end up moving on from that job. I wouldnt last.... but that's me

sadzzz · February 19, 2010, 2:05am

yyaaaayyyyy

PyariCgudia · February 19, 2010, 2:06am

I absolutely hate jobs that pay you a lot for doing nothing.

Mehnaz · February 19, 2010, 2:10am

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Oz, you remind me of someone .... hmmmm ... :D

Oz1217 · February 19, 2010, 2:10am

PyariCgudia:

If you offered me to sit at home and take care of my kid and keep house, and that’s all I had to do, I would do it with so much less stress than I conduct my career. Soooo much less stress.

Like seriously. SOOOOOO much less stress.**

Now, yeah, I guess if you compare raising kids and keeping house to being some bored secretary who gets paid to thumb through magazines, or some other ridiculously easy job which is ridiculously overpaid, then sure, maybe in comparison raising kids is more difficult. **

But in all honesty, if you actually WORK when you go to work, and you are a productive successful professional, chances are you are working your behind off. Chances are you do more units of work than a stay at home mom.

Don’t get me wrong. I think moms have a tough job. But it gets tough when you’re dealing with a behavior problem (in which case you probably suck as a mom, because if you established rules and boundaries in the first place, your kid wouldn’t be such a troublemaker). It does not get TOUGH when you are putting on a pot of DAAL.

Trust me. I just learned to make daal ka saalan this weekend, and it is a total joke. Seriously. You ladies really shouldn’t be complaining - if that’s really all you gotta do and sugar daddy brings home diamonds for you, you are SERIOUSLY getting a great deal. Lots of reward for very little work. :k:

Some of us actually like to put ourselves through some pain and misery to get that diamond ring.

Thank you for completely illustrating the point of my opening thread. :k:

Aish · February 19, 2010, 2:26am

I don't understand why you care? Are you that insecure?

You think they're stuck up and they think...whatever is it they think about stay at home moms. Grow up

sadzzz · February 19, 2010, 2:41am

and its funny when some people have nothing more to say turn to mocking someone's situation... two gold medals for you

PatriotX · February 19, 2010, 2:48am

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yayyyy !!!

cherryontop · February 19, 2010, 2:49am

You sound like your job involves running around the caves of Afghanistan hunting for Mullah Omar....hahaha

And you don't have kids yet...all these things that you are dismissing as menial tasks might not seem menial when you actually have two young toddlers to take care of.

Honestly, people need to LIVE and LET LIVE. Why do working women care if stay at home moms aren't working? What the heck is it to you? They are being productive members of society by raising kids and being there for your family. Productivity can also come from taking care of your family...it doesn't have to involve going out and becoming a freaking martyr.

And stay at home moms should also definitely respect working mothers for being able to balance their professional and their role as a wife and a mother. It's very tough to maintain a balance. This holier than thou attitude needs to be stopped from both sides. Women are so catty....it's so sad. If only they would support each other instead of running after each other with a freakin knife!

mistral · February 19, 2010, 2:51am

^Bravo.

Took the words right out of my mouth.

Aish · February 19, 2010, 2:53am

Seriously. And maybe you should've started a thread called "working women" as opposed to STUCK UP girls

stuck up, jaahil, miserable?

cherryontop · February 19, 2010, 2:54am

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Also, either side who looks down upon the other is just INSECURE.

The working women who look down upon stay at home moms are insecure coz they don't have the luxury of staying home and enjoying life at a leisurely pace. The stay at home moms criticizing working women are insecure coz they are envy women who get to go out and work in a field they enjoy.

By the way I came across a survey of women on WSJ and they were all very well known and were CEOs, directors and managers of really famous companies. They all said motherhood is the toughest job they've ever had.

Aish · February 19, 2010, 2:56am

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women really do hate each other. I don't think men are like this with one another

cherryontop · February 19, 2010, 2:57am

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^ Seriously, it's so sad....the cattiness women project towards other women....it's UNBELIEVABLE!

sadzzz · February 19, 2010, 2:57am

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^ exactly?

we only become catty because msot of the time we are looked down upon. I dont think i have a holier than thou attitude.

What gets to me is when housewives categorise working mothers into the stuck up, bad mothers groups.

We aint.

And the reason why working mothers say that working and looking after a home is more difficult to than just staying at home... or just working... is because it is harder! unless you've actually experienced that life, uve no reason to be judging someone.

I know housewives do a lot of hardwork to raise kids, but all im trying to point out is, dont be quick to judge someone who is a working mother either.

Simple.