Ok so ive been engaged for about a year and some months now and my in-laws and paretns are both so different in so many way. my parents on one hand are a little more religious and you can say traditional and my in-laws are more modern and religious but not as much as my parents. In many cultures i know while being engaged its not allowed for the girl and guy to go out together and stuff but in our culture its permissable with an adult obviously, this isnt the 14th century where u need parental supervision where ever you go.
So im often stuck in situations where my in-laws or fiance wanna do something but i cant cause it requires my fiance and i to be alone and my parents wount allow that. Like going to the movies or going out for dinner we have to have someone with us at all times. This matter usually causes many problems between my parents and I who think i should know better and stand up and say no i cant go out for such and such reason. And also causes problems between my fiance and I cause all his freidns are married or engaged and are all allowed to do whatever they want...is this normal?
have any of you been thru the same situation or something similar? Sometimes i feel like im the only one who gets trapped in these stupid positions and it makes me so mad....Pray for me guys... to have the strenght to surpass all this.
Consider yourself lucky that you're allowed to hang out with him like the way you are now. Many, many families do not even allow that much. I know in our family, like PSquared explained, engagements mean nothing and we cannot even have unnecessary talks over the phone.
Your in-laws are okay with you guys hanging out but many many many Pakistani families are not. And that is important to keep in mind for your future, your sister and for your parents. :)