Ah, okay, I'm glad that you two get that alone time. With all due respect to your in-laws, things would be so much easier if they would just understand that there are certain limitations that you must take into consideration.
I'm sure they are just so excited to have you be a part of the family that they really want to be able to have you with them at all important events and functions. It is actually very sweet that they want you to be involved. Stay strong and keep trying to get both sides to compromise. Also, be extra sweet to your in-laws. When you are allowed to visit bring something you've baked, text your MIL once in a while just to say and that you were thinking of her, send e-cards, maybe when you're shopping buy her a shade of lipstick that you thought would compliment her. This way, when you have to reject invitations from them they understand that you still love and care for the family very much, but you're just not able to participate in certain activities right now; it will make the blow softer. Plus, if you become closer to your MIL like this you may be able to have a frank discussion with her about the situation. I love buying little treats for my MIL, I always buy her and my mom the same perfume for instance, MA we have a great relationship now.
I think what is key here is to maintain the good relationship with your in-laws while still adhering to your parents requests.
Good luck dear!
lol yea ur right ...i do try to be extra sweet and ignore stuff thats unkind or w.e. Since ive been engaged for a year and they come pick me up often i can always make her something. But when we first got engaged id always make something sweet and take it for her or like my mil is very very into all the girly stuff like makeup and hair accessories and shoes and clothes and alll that so like ive gotten her hair clips and perfumes and stuff and when my fiance is out of town i call her everyday to make sure shes ok and stuff. Inshallah next time i go ill get her a lipstick or something thats a good idea.
but yea i try to be fair to both sides its just hard listening to everyone