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Yea..my parents would discipline us if we were misbehaving. Some people would rather just chat up instead of looking after their kids..
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All kids do badtamizi at times and those who are too disciplined get bullied at school and in life later in life … even from 7 year old.
Excessively badtameez kids should be disciplined but not to the extent that you make them act like sheeps.
The situation was not alarming and shows that those girls were doing mischief (shararat ) and kids should do this, otherwise no one would call them kids 
One could simply be friends with them ( if you are a girl)
*hey show me the snaps *
*hey your hairs look nice *
*hey you look good in that picture *
where you bought that dress from ??
Hey you are messing it up let me take your snaps properly ?
Those girls, even if they look like a dork a little praise can get the task done :k:
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Seriously, folks...it isnt the job of acquaintances or remote relatives to ensure the proper behavior of children at any social function. If a child is acting up, it is the sole responsibility of the parent - to KNOW what their kids are up to AND more importantly, to teach them proper behavior in social settings which includes RESPECT for others. This is every bit as important IMO as academic learning. If a parent brings a child to a social function, the parent needs to take responsibility for their child(ren) and treat it as a rich learning experience...and this means to be WATCHFUL, it DOES NOT mean go off and socialize while your kids run rampant.
Ms Shweetz I think does not have children of her own and it should not be assumed that ANYONE will take over the discipline of an unruly child. Not her responsibility, its not something she is accustomed to doing nor SHOULD it be. She was harassed by unsupervised, bratty out of control children, plain and simple. So stop picking on her!
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You must get back at the kid if what they are doing somehow affects you or your close ones. But always make sure it looks like an accident or else it could get nasty. The point is you are not trying to change their behavior, but rather just letting them know that you will not tolerate their nonsense.
Most parents are delusional to accepting the fact that their kids are spoiled brats and won't do anything to correct it.
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No one answered my question 
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My eldest son has developmental delays, he's sligthly autistic and in a special-ed class. There was only one person who offended me by asking about him and that was because of HOW she asked ("Is there something WRONG with your child?) My response was that no he is fine. He is also slightly autistic.
Having it the other way around - ie., having someone ask about a "typically developing" child, well that would be upsetting to a parent!
Either way, I guess the best way to approach it is in general talk about the child with the child's parent. Most parents who have a child with special needs end up talking about it, its such a part of their life.
Also..."special" or not, EVERY child should be properly supervised in any social setting and proper behaviors taught - or just stay home.
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Ms Shweetz I think does not have children of her own and it should not be assumed that ANYONE will take over the discipline of an unruly child. Not her responsibility, its not something she is accustomed to doing nor SHOULD it be. She was harassed by unsupervised, bratty out of control children, plain and simple. So stop picking on her!
It would be quite harsh to judge these kids like that...
It seems like we are taking too much liberty in labeling them as such because they or their parents are not here to defend. But hey, this style of judgement Dosen't sound strange to me at all !!!
Mama of 3 ! I assume 3 boys ?
Your exposure is maybe too centripetal around male kids.
psychology expert agree that there is a slight behavioural variation among male and female child.
male kids are generaly dumb/smart, braty/submissive, active etc
female kids are dumb/smart, sweet, assertive, girly and sporty
unlike boys, girls in early age dont appreciate spanking much...And around boys of similar age they like to take charge in activities, even smart boys are dumb early on; they are submissive.
The role reverses once they reach puberty... girls like to be submissive at certain elementary levels... but work for taking charge of bigger things in life.
So in this particular case this psychology was at work. It appears that the older girl was alone so the younger ones targeted her .. Just like lioness target a lone dear/zebra, or like an eagle waits for parent bird to leave the nest so he could catch the unprotected chick in the nest (just like they show in national geographic)
it was a simple situation where just a slight frequency adjustment would have solved the problem, amicably.
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Shweets next time try anouncing loudly "who these brats belong to? can they keep them in cage?" it will all work out fine.
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Mr/Ms code, you may be right about all the psychology and yes, I DO have 3 boys. Yet....there are certain behaviors which are not acceptable in a social setting. Animal tendencies aside, we are PEOPLE and we need to learn how to fit in to society. If the young tigresses were targeting a lone, elder tigress well thats fine in the wilds of africa but not at the family wedding, yeah?
In the wild, a mother tiger will reward her baby tiger for such behavior and the baby learns that it is a GOOD thing to do. In polite, HUMAN society, such behavior needs to be squashed immediately and punished so that the little (brat) learns that it is NOT acceptable, no matter WHAT their animal instincts are telling them.
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Well said Mamaof3!:biggthumb
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In the wild, a mother tiger will reward her baby tiger for such behavior and the baby learns that it is a GOOD thing to do. In polite, HUMAN society, such behavior needs to be squashed immediately and punished so that the little (brat) learns that it is NOT acceptable, no matter WHAT their animal instincts are telling them.
Well said Mamaof3.
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Ah ! Why this oh so polite human society is so inclined to punish instead of slight behavioural adjustment ??
I am hopelessly lost as why you people see situation so helpless that for you first and last option is punishment ?? that too of complete strangers, that too without any study of their behavior, because supposidly their parents are not doing their job. Because all other parents are idoit, but we are maverick 
:halo:
After reading the thread i am of the view that people tend to forget their childhood, once they become adult, and start hating kids for their childish behaviour. Kids, As much the cuteness and innocence they also do mischief, cause nuisence… Instead of fuming up all the time we can tackle the issue, in various ways, depending upon a situation.
I have already said that what was needed in that situation was a just a pinch of intelligence and table spoon of conformity with (girl) child psyche.
If the person in that situation was a unmarried guy, i would not have advocated that sollution; because that would be like asking too much (i.e knowing girl child psyche)
It is a well known kiddie behaviour that if a person gets irritated from some actions, they start repeating it for fun. And if a person is wise he/she would not get irritated instead he will ignore the irritant and try to divrert kids attention.
**It would be wise if we stop labeling other people;s kids, and calling them names . As we do not appreciate the same for our kids, even if it is comming from acquaintance **
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Or call cops !!
‘Officer, put them little fickles behind the bar, they are harassing me’
Of course they would rescue her. Its America, where People getharassed by even 4 year old…
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What is that rose for at the end? 
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I think thats all i had to say.
Ms shweetdreams, any offense caused by my posts is unfortunate and grieved. Happy birthday, many happy returns of the day, may you have a pleasent and properous year and life ahead. 
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Wishing for a prosperous year at this time of the year? Are you talking about the Chinese new year? I think it is the year of the swine.
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No not the kids but the parents should be taken care of if they cannot make their children behave properly in public.
BTW in the announcement which I proposed earlier again the target are not the children but to embarass the parents for not proper education at home.
Codey one question, If these 2 girls were yours and you see shweets going through this, would you tell them to behave themselves or not? The sane answer would be “Yes”. And this is exactly what did not happen.
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If you observe closely , Kids do not behave in a uniform pattern, days in and days out. Some time they are more active hyper and other time they are subdued. Even adult show the same variation.
That incident does not tell us whether parents did the job well or not. When kids gang up they tend to do obnoxious thing all the time, When we were kids we used to break windows of our neighbours, used to ruin lawns and damage pots, plants and did all sort of wild things... They used to swear at us call us morons, but we used to run away before they could catch us :D
I believe every kid could be labeled as brat, if he/she is smart and active, including yours. If he/she does not exhibit such a behaviour at times then he must be slow.
To judge those kids or their parent's skills, one must study their behaviour more closely and for a larger period of time, just this incident does not tell anything. For example, we see that people dance at wedding for fun even if they don't have a clue at what they are doing, they even look like joker... people laugh at them but in good fun they keep on doing it. Can we deduce that these people are silly and weird and act stupid normally ?
Another example for desis can relate to, at wedding there is a rasm called doodh pilayee, where girls ask money from groom. At that time those girls who otherwise dont talk to stangers specially boys without reason, are joking laughing and having fun with them. Should I deduce that these girls normally gets friendly with stranger so easily ? No. If i am wise i would understand that this is a special occasion, and a special behaviour.
At parties, social gatherings, kids do wilder thing than that. The elders are supposed to control them. Shweetdreamz being the adult should have managed the kids and easily diverted their attention. If I was the parent i would have stopped the girls, but if the parent are not paying attention you can take the charge instead letting them getting on your nerves.
A dirty campus secret about desi girls ....
Easiest way to lose girl's attention is ..... Try to be friendly with her :)
I believe, those kids were desi girls.
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I disagree. For example, a shy person cannot start dancing on a special occasion.