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Well in my school they were really strict..even if someone hit u , u were sposed to turn the other cheek/"do what Jesus did" etc etc..
also, that i'm a complete wimp who cudnt stand up for herself :(
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Oh God, I can't begin to tell you how common of a problem this is. Shows that why desis are screwed up is because of the way parents are raising their kids.
Always in those situations, don't even look at the kid. Just go straight to the mother and be mature and tell them their kid is acting up.
If they don't want to do anything about it, then go ahead and slap the kid next time they bother you. If mommy comes in the picture being a lioness, tell the mom off.
:) Might as well spice up the party - most of these dawats are yawn boring anyway.
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I cant stand bratty undisciplined kids. U go to these stupid functions where women just sit there all dolled up and leave their sprogs to run riot cos its free childcare. It makes me physically sick! I vowed i would NEVA b one of those women.
I used to worry that my daughter wouldnt b able to stand up for herself against bratty kids cos shes an only child but kids of today generally can hold their own.
Shweetdreamz u did the right thing-it was good of u to put up with it for that long.
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While I can't tolerate bratty kids, I would be highly offended if someone physically disciplined Noor. That's my job. Either I can do it or my husband can do it. Not another soul that walks the face of this earth should ever, and I mean EVER touch my child. phew Now that I have THAT out of my system.
I would never be offended if someone came to me dragging Noor by the ear and complained about her behaviour. I would thank them for taking the initiative to protect my izzat in the gathering. Noor would then be appropriately disciplined.
I've seen mothers sit around while their kids run the place ragged. Not only disturbing guests but destroying the surroundings as well. I used to wonder why but now I just approach the kid and ask them if their behaviour is how their parents taught them to be. I do this with a smile on my face so the parent can't possibly think that I am reprimanding them. (e.g. "Your ammi couldn't possibly have forgotten to teach you how to say please, could she?" I used this at the last wedding that I went to where a kid climbed up to a barstool and demanded the bar-keep get him a Coke.)
And if it doesn't work, I leave the kids doing whatever they are, walk over to the parent and ask them to follow me if they don't mind. I take them aside so as not to embarass them and explain what's been going on. Most mothers are cooperative if you approach them in this manner because you've obviously kept their izzat amongst the friends they were sitting with.
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Being old has many benefits and joys so I can’t disagree with you on that. However, that’s for another thread and you are derailing this thread.
So, did you tell the bullies that you are not like them and that you are special. 
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And if it doesn't work, I leave the kids doing whatever they are, walk over to the parent and ask them to follow me if they don't mind. I take them aside so as not to embarass them and explain what's been going on. Most mothers are cooperative if you approach them in this manner because you've obviously kept their izzat amongst the friends they were sitting with.
i think thats a good approach...
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right. one of those must be being content with laughing at your own jokes.
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Man these girls are sooo not cool 
dont you folk have a child inside you ? Or you have killed it with your own hands 
why girls act all snoby and biitchy as soon as they enter teenage ? why cant you handle the situation in fun loving way why do you murder fun loving care free kids inside you.
You Shmucks ( game, with due respect, dude 
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7 y/olds bullying you is far more funnier, it’s outright hillarious. 
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now now LI uncle u know what the doc said. laugh but....watch that ribcage......
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OK, that was a GREAT comeback.
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There’s a difference between having an “inner child” and having an “inner, badtameez child” When I was a kid, that kind of behavior would have landed me an ass whooping to remember. i’m all for children playing and being imaginative, but children pushing adults and generally being badtameez, there’s no excuse for that and there is no excuse for defending that kind of behavior. Code_red, excuse me for saying this, but it sounds like these are the type of children you have or plan to have.
I have in the past asked very loudly “Excuse me, who’s this child with?” and when I receive an answer, i will usually say “Could you please make sure he/she doesn’t hurt him/herself or others with all the running around they’re doing”
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maybe coz some of us dint enjoy being kids
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Code_Red: Some kids can b really bratty and plain obnoxious and parents leave them to run riot at asian funtions and turn a blind eye to all bad behaviour. One day if UR children behave like this WITH U lets see if ur as understanding and even more so if some1 complains abt their behaviour u’ll probably turn a blind eye to it like these stupid women at funtions!
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:biggthumb to you mr A! I SO agree with you. From the things I've seen, parents who are tired and careless will go out to parties and just let the kids run amok with the thought that there will always be others to watch out for them. And they proceed to completely ignore the bad behavior. The kids KNOW they're being ignored so they act up even more.
Parents cannot AFFORD to give in to tiredness nor are they allowed to take a break...parenthood is 24/7, 365. If you cant deal then dont have them! Otherwise DEAL with them.
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lol i have same problem, even tho im like 6'2, 180 lbs, kids think of me as a kid, i mean im a nice guy, and become friends with kids easy...so they often mess with me...but once they do sumthing that pisses me off, i warn them couple times, and than i str8 up yell at them...but after that i become nice again, and they don't mess with me again. And if the parents say anything, just tell them how bad of parents they are and how bad their kids are.
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…if it was my mum she would actually tell me off rather then get defensive…she believes in respect for elders unlike those mothers 
i mean come on…if u can see ur child is bein silly wid an elder who they dnt know why not say sumthing?!
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Don’t worry about me, just avoid 7 y/old bullies at weddings, shabaash.
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Code-Red, I'd like to see you throw a party, and then have your friends kids wreck your house and your friends ignore it even if you tell them what their kids are doing.
Parents are not blind. They SEE the way their kids act at a dawat, and I think most of those kids behave that way with mommie in eyesight.
Man, I only remember getting my arse kicked if I ever went out with my parents and if I remotely embarassed them. I used to have horrible teeth when they were growing out and falling out, and if I so much as smiled my missing tooth grin too much, my mom would give me death looks at a dawat...
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I agree with what Muzna said.