A few weeks ago i was at this desi gathering. There was a lady with two girls sitting right next to me. The girls were most probably 7 years old or a little older maybe. They were taking pictures of each other with their camera and kept bumping into me. I politely told them they are pushing me. After that it got really obnoxious. The girls started pushing me on purpose. No matter where I went they would follow me and “accidentally” bump into me and go “oh sorry!” actually it was one of them that kept telling the other to do this. After a while I got frustrated and said “stop acting stupid ok. i know u guys are doing this on purpose…im going to tell your mom if u dont stop” …Didnt work. they kept this up until the very end when i was about to leave for home. Their moms just sat their watching everything and not doing anything. I did not know the moms so I didnt go complain to them.
Right before Im leaving i hear the girl whispering to the other girl “psst she’s about to leave…step on her foot before she leaves” and they stood right in front of me blocking my way. i got pissed and told her to “stop it or ill slap u”
she went all teary eyed and told her mom this part “mommy this girl said she’ll slap me” and the mother got pissed at ME!
I mean seriously! why insult me when u can see it was your kids fault? u r only encouraging the kid’s behavior! I usually get along fine with kids but these girls were just obnoxious and everyone has a limit! Why do people feel the need to get defensive like that? I know I should not stoop to the level of a 7 year old but what else could I have done?
i dont know wat it is man i have cousins who are similar and their mums get defensive if i hit them i am like well teach them manners then u cant really do anythin
Schweetz, I'm not a parent but I can say that many parents do get defensive and sensitive if a bad word is uttered against their child...it's the Lioness defending her cub complex...
In your position, if I knew who the mother was, I would have approached her directly, otherwise you're unfairly seen as victimising the child...
Otherwise, if the parent is not around, IMO you have every right to tell a kid off in such a situation...they were invading your personal space - simple!
phoenix: the mom was around and she saw everything! but she wouldnt do anything about it. I did not even know her so I felt bad going up and complaining to her. I was going to ignore them too but towards the end I just lost it!
I know what you mean...it feels silly to create a scene cos a kid is bugging you...but when she did get mad at you, you should have said fairly loudly:
'Listen lady, if **you* knew how to control your kids, other people wouldn't have to!'*
That would hopefully have been enough to embarrass her into some kind of realisation...
shouldve directly told the mother to begin with "Either discipline your children yourself, or I will." and then whispered somthing equally obnoxious under your breath (but loud enough for people to hear) about unfit mothers and bad parenting and the state of the world.
She wouldnt have bumped into me because she would have bounced a few feet and hit the ground.
But I would have told her mother after the second or third time she did it to me. And I also would have told her that if she doesnt get her daughter to stop then I will take the matter into my own hands. (But that doesnt mean I would do anything afterwards.)
Although if I got really upset and the mother wasnt doing anything about it, I might have gone upto the podium and made a little announcement about how its unsafe for children to be running around bumping into people as they could hurt someone or get hurt themselves, so parents please control your children.
i thought of pushing them or steppping on their heels too but i backed out at the last moment thinking nah they’re just kids
ive tried the telling the mom approach once. my aunt got SO pissed she went like “oh they are just kids…kids do these things. u shouldnt be so harsh on them”
once when i worked at a homestore i used to spend hours fixing their bedding and arranging things perfectly and a womans kids came and started jumping on their expensive bedsheets with dirty shoes on. my manager told them to get off and the mother threatened to sue the company for that
For goodness sakes, our mother would give us a clip around the head there and then if anyone complained about us...or she'd tell the person to tell us off and would make us apologise to them...
Although I do completely understand the lioness protecting the cub and have experienced it...I AM able to step back and determine whether my littles have offended. If they have, then they are made to apologize and then are punished (naughty corner, no ice cream whatever). They CAN tend to get out of hand when a firm watch is not kept and that IS part of being a kid...but learning right from wrong is ALSO an important part of being a kid!
You really SHOULD have slapped those little freshies!!!!!
I would go up to the mom and tell her that her daughter is being obnoxious…parents tend to ignore the harmless little acts resulting from the angelic innocence of their children. If mom was watching all this and not doing anything about it, you should have brought it to her attention polietly that it is annoying you.
Even an easier way would be you bumping in to the girl “accidently” which would make her fall..then you would apologise to the aunty and make sure the kid knows it was on purpose.
I have witnessed this kidna behavior more than a few times. Where kids are
running around hitting other children, snatching toys from them etc.
And the parents (specially mothers) just sit there do nothing.
I mean NOTHING. They act as if they didn't see anything.
I have to say most of these are uneducated women. Who have
learnt how to dress nicely, try to speak as much english as possilbe
(tooti phooti ofcourse) but they have not learnt to discipline their own children.
I have to say most of these are uneducated women. Who have
learnt how to dress nicely, try to speak as much english as possilbe
(tooti phooti ofcourse) but they have not learnt to discipline their own children.
SO true Sajal!
Mama0f3: im glad i have atleast one mama on my side! I was actually feeling a little bad for saying to the girl that ill slap u but now i dont!
hahah love the way those kids managed to get under your skin so easily.. If you decide to "take on" these rascals.. u need to be able to follow through.. not just be Ms. Empty Threats.. They saw that weakness; kids are exceptional at spotting that, and went for the kill.
When u think the whole thing through, the best recourse for you would have been to just move to a different seat, give the kids more room to do what they want.. cuz u cannot discipline other's kids. You should know that cuz the kids definitely knew that.
Right before Im leaving i hear the girl whispering to the other girl "psst she's about to leave....step on her foot before she leaves" and they stood right in front of me blocking my way.
7 yr olds are pushing you around. Tsk tsk. :D
Kids are very perceptive and these girls saw the real person behind the bluster and facade.
Kids are very perceptive and these girls saw the real person behind the bluster and facade.
if that is what u are going to tell every person that gets pushed around by YOUR kids then tsk tsk. ure probably the desi parent we're discussing here.
