Stick to one person?

Lifestyle Relationships
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Hello everyone! :slight_smile:
My question may sound childish but…I have to ask.
I am a 22 year girl..never had any boyfriend or anything like that in life. However I do admire good personalities and get along with almost everyone. What I wanted to ask is, when people get married, do they have to try to be in love with that person only and not get attracted to anyone else or it just comes natural? I mean like I am today, my friend says I am charming and flirtious…I talk to everyone, compliment them if they are nice etc…but I dont feel the need to take the conversation further or give them phone number etc. Maybe when it comes to a long term committment I dont feel sure if I will change and only stick to that person and not get bored since I always liked variety in life? I don’t know I am just too confused. My mom wants me to get married now but with these kinda thoughts in mind do you guys think I am ready for it? Is it normal or I should wait? :expressionless:

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The key is to know your limits, how far you can take something and how far you should take something so that the other person doesnt get the wrong idea.....
we all have thoughts we just have to make sure they dont become our actions....

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I believe in the principle of diet.. .you can see, but no touching or eating allowed

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when u say u like variety do u change friends often?

ussy aj ham ne bhula dia
ussy aj ham ne bhula dia
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Carrying a conversation and sharing the same bed are totally two different things. Your thoughts are immature, give yourself a year or so. Wait till you crave a bit for it.

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u say youve never had a relationship, that could be the cause of you not knowing whether ur able to commit to one guy. I dont necessarily blame u, and the fact that your acknowledging this duz show maturity bcoz ur willing to wait a little longer.

I think once u find a guy who you connect with will most likely keep u faithful. And like someone up there ^ suggested, we all have thoughts we just gta make sure they dont turn into actions.

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We have a strange society. You are your normal friendly self towards everybody including males, you talk to males as you talk to females, you are as normal and kind towards males as you are towards females, you treat them all equally, yet people start making lies that you "flirt".

I've been reading what flirting is, because people were lying that I was "flirting" while I wasn't. As far as I knew, you flirt when you go after males, I never did that. Talking to males as normal and friendly as you talk to females is not flirting. For years I even stopped talking to males, I was afraid I would be misunderstood and people would lie that I was "flirting" while that never was my aim. (not even when I fell in love, I just said plainly, I'm in love with you, but we can't have any relationship because of religious and cultural issues, so I don't want anything at all from you, that is also not flirting) When I stopped talking to males, that got me in trouble too by the way... Anyway, you have to consider the meaning of flirting and if you talk to males and females equally friendly and normal and you never had the intention of going after males, you are not flirting, no matter what people say.

And about sticking to one person, I think most females want to have one person who cares about them, but we aren't all ready to get married when our families want us to. Some females want to finish education first while other females do want to get married without all that. Eventually, at one point in life, each female wants to have someone who will love her, protect her and be with her. For females, in most cases, one person is enough. (whenever I read books of and about non-Muslims and whenever I watch movies of and about non-Muslims, those females however are different, they do have more than one relationship, so I can't speak for all females)

Males, I don't know. Even in Islam they do tend to take more than one wife in some cases. I really don't know if most males can be with one female. When a male marries you, he does say he only wants you and he truly loves you, but after marriage, most of what the male said and promised, were his lies.

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Plz spare the guy, dont stick to him. Instead stick to every one... like a chewed gum on a chair.

you girls are SO full of crap. U telling me all your life you exchanging fone no. with guys(they guys you absolutely adore) YET NO ONE went beyond being friends?? U seriously that unattractive??? In that case have some self respect honey...

Like On your most horny days you did not talk to them beyond casual stuff???
oh phleeeezzzzzzzzzzeeeeeeeeeee.

I assure you that THAY ONE guy would be better off with out you!!!!

Its very much ok to be a slut...just don't spoil some one else life...

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^ u r becoming my hero on this forum :k:

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:omg:

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If you want your relationship to work and LAST then you will commit and you will compromise to make your relationship a good one.
your 22, not 2 years old.

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Didn't you even read the OP's post point dexter? She said she DIDN't exchange any phone numbers because she believes that's taking it too far! How the hell is she a slut just because she talks to guys?!

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what has happened to GS? mods are speaking like this? :(

yaar bechari ko keu bura bhala khery ho

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haan, sahi keh rahe ho…ho kaya gaya hai? :nahi:

I am a MULTI :5:
I am a MULTI :5:
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yea, you think at least one prerequisite of being a mod is the ability to read. another to actually be able to write a coherent sentence.

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Read again floks!!!!

I am certain a girl who believes in all that can put her husband through HELL!!!!
I have seen that kind..many times!!!!

Girls have rights to enjoy ....So in my opinion, at this point, she get most out her life... once attrection goes down ... she should try to find a hubby then..

Like first step is find a wife in you... then go look for hubby.

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I think when we haven't met the right person - we question these kinda things. Imagining life with someone we don't really care about is not only hard but seems impossible. So, yeah, I think it's not the time yet. One thing to remember (and I am reminding myself more than anyone else) is to not get into anything that you're not one hundred percent sure about. When you're sure, you won't be asking this question.

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Guppyshuppy is going down the poopy doopy.

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Glad to know at some point you actually liked GS :)

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^ Hopefully, that won't be a reflection on the management.

And OTP, who uses such words as 'slut' and 'full of crap'... especially and regretfully commenting to a female member.

Now that shows a lot about management doesn't it?

Its still not your fault... PM... i don't blame you for ur spastic comments. Not everyone out there is good with words and has got a way with expression.

But then, not everyone gets away with being a complete 'idiot' almost every time. Lucky you.

Oh hell, there u go...