All these ‘guys getting scared’ threads are scaring the shiite out of me. So really, should a girl never appraoch a guy and tell him she likes him?
It takes up so much courage and will power damn it
To the guys:
Lets say u fancy a girl but don’t want to approach her because she might not feel the same. How would u react if she took that step and approached u?
I don’t get it, how can u live with the “what if..” feeling the rest of ur life? Shouldnt we all just swallow our pride/insecurities etc and tell him/her we like em? SO what if u get hurt??? Be a man and deal with it!!
(yes, another one who’s a ‘tad’ bit annoyed with the oppsite gender, darrpok kaheen ke!)
What irritates me, is when a guy flirts like hell with you, drops hints about marriage even and when you ask him seriously, okay so whats going on, he plays dumb as though he never said those things he said!
So now Im on a tip, where I just play it cool and I'm leaving it to mummy and daddy to decide on my future partner for me.
Shinno all our lovely male guppies will say “hey I don’t mind if she comes up to me…” and at the back of thier minds “yeah..only if she’s a 36, 24, 36..else I’ll run”
Ohh yeah…I hear you sister…what’s the thing about marriage and “we’ll have such cute babies”..heck dont they know it’s gets us thinking about marriage and motherhood and what not…and then it;s like “no I’m not ready for a relationship”…idiots
Nessie, yeh nahin challe ga! Help me understand ur gender please.
Catty,
I know eh! It’s one big friggin’ cat n mouse game. Bass aik doosre ke peeche bhaagte raho but ooh nooo don’t have a serious talk, it’ll kill them.
LK,
I don’t even wanna know what sizes those r. I bet only supermodels have them
catwoman, i totally agree with you. I'm at that stage as well right now. But then you know what? Sometimes I feel like, if i wait around for a proposal - nothing will come. My parents are so flippin' antisocial...I think they know a total of 3 desi families in the whole of USA.
I hate those cat and mouse games! We’re adults for crying out loud!! and if they just wanna have fun, they should go find some gori.
PCG, patience is a virtue I’ve learnt. Dont be disheartened by this though. You seem to have a wide circle of friends. My parents are the same, they dont believe in looking for rishtas or advertising, because my older sisters didnt have to look. So they feel jab waqt aye ga (even if im 30), ho jaye ga sab kuch.
I live in South Africa for crying out loud, there are no desis here! lol
well, the problem is the guys often only think short-term. And in that timeframe they operate: they flirt, hang out, do things.....everything is cool then. However when this girl steps upto him and tells how she feels, it is as if the raw truth is presented before him: the long-term! and then the guy enters chaos and the emergency exit is taken...the latter u gals know too well :D
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catwoman, i totally agree with you. I'm at that stage as well right now. But then you know what? Sometimes I feel like, if i wait around for a proposal - nothing will come. My parents are so flippin' antisocial...I think they know a total of 3 desi families in the whole of USA.
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Ohh my folks are the same... I think I'm gonna die a virgin :(
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I don't get it, how can u live with the "what if.." feeling the rest of ur life?
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How do you think poets are born?
To answer your question the problem is not when both fancy each other, the difficult situation is when you do not look at the girl as some one you want to spend the rest of your life with. One may also be weighing the pros and cons of marrying the girl and if the girl comes out too strong a man may run away from being pushed into a decision he was not sure of in the first place.
Not all girls that a man speaks to are being checked out as future brides, some are good friends too, just like a girl may have several male friends but she does not plan to marry them.
there's nothing wrong with telling a guy you like him. i've done it before. ;)
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Mehnaz, what was the outcome? ;)
Ashtray, thank you for the explanation. I have good male friends myself so I know it's not always about fancying eachother . I guess I'm just frutrated :-/
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To the guys:
Lets say u fancy a girl but don't want to approach her because she might not feel the same. How would u react if she took that step and approached u?
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I'll be glad and appreciate her step. But in my case, she wouldn't need to do that, because I am man enough to take that step.
