What is this whole crap about a guy feeling insecure when a girl approaches him? Some guys like shy, submissive timid girls, it's a prefernce, it doesn't have to be insecurity. It's like me saying I like a shy guy, it's just my preference, not something wrong with me but women ALWAYYYYSSS attack the guy and it's ALWAYS his fault. If he doesn't respond to your overtures, boohoo he's an insecure mama's boy SOB.
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catwoman, i totally agree with you. I'm at that stage as well right now. But then you know what? Sometimes I feel like, if i wait around for a proposal - nothing will come. My parents are so flippin' antisocial...I think they know a total of 3 desi families in the whole of USA.
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oh my god, join the club girl..my parents dont know ANYONE...they want to find a rishta in pakistan and even then only if i lose a lil bit of weight...ffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffq....
You are learning well grasshoppa!
We WISH there were plenty of girls like the one you described 
It’s hard to find such girls these days 
With all this fast food, carbonated drinks, and junk food people eating these days and no walking, just driving 
If I think a guy likes me, and I think I may want to get to know him in a serious manner, like if I feel he is dropping hints or perhaps we are forming a bond, I will tell him or ask him if he wants to consider getting to know me in that way. I have found it to be a wonderful thing to do, despite what I read in PCG's thread. It eliminates those guys who seem to show interest, but really arent interested. This is because I take my time in getting to know the person and then I make such a statement. I dont fault the guy for showing interest and then backing off if that happens, because I take that step to clear the ambiguity. Maybe he wasnt interested and I took it the wrong way. This clears the air, and I find that guys who like you and respect you as a person, will often continue the friendship afterwards even if you ask them that question. Or some will simply feel uncomfortable and break that initial bond, which to me is perfectly fine.
I have done this a few times now and it works really well for me. I will also do this when I think a guy likes me and I dont see him in that way. It has resulted in me breaking off a few new friendships (because in this case the guy did like me but I didnt see him that way, and then he feels uncomfy because now he knows for sure that I dont see him like that). Other times I have been wrong and the guy doesnt see me that way, and we have remained friends, so it turns out pretty good either way.
I think its best that people are more upfront about these things. Thats how they were in the older days.
of course its alright for girls to play games because they r ‘complex’ creatures 
i reckon arab and other wog guys are better at approaching, asking, being rejected and moving on.. its no big deal for them.. coz thats what guys do…
So girls, shift race preferences.. (if your parents are cool with it.. 
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edit:stupid smilies..
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You are learning well grasshoppa!
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yeah...someone pass me the ice cream tub
Re: Re: Step up to a guy…
:k: damn right!
After my husband died and I graduated from College, I figured the worst that could happen was the man said no.
I asked out about eight men, dated 7 only one or two times, and found out they were not what I wanted in a husband and father. The eighth I married. He loved that I asked him out. He said that showed strength, courage, and resolution.
I guess it depends on what you are looking for, if you think that you want a man who is threatened by you asking him out, don't do it.
The only drawback, if you ask someone out then you run the risk of paying for the date, only fair.
Good luck
Catty, I’ve never known you to be so offensive. My wife is a ‘gori’. Why do pakistanis feel like they have to put down white girls CONSTANTLY, implying that they are all sluts and whores? Trust me, I’ve seen plenty of pakistani sluts and whores in my time. What gives you the right to make statements like that? Before I got married, I had my ‘fun’ with both goris and pakis so the slut factor resides on either side, don’t go around implying that you should go to a gori for fun and a paki for marriage, cuz i’ve seen it work both ways.
aahmed : thank you
As a very devout catholic "gori" once married for many years (and will be in my heart for the rest of my life) to a very muslim Pakistani (now deceased for two years), I thank you.
I have to say though, the reputation seems earned in some ways. Back then, I have stood with my husband and have had some (usually very young) women blantantly state if he has money or is willing to spend it, he could have her. Unfortunately, all "gori" get painted by the same brush.
It goes both ways though, my white friends tend to think Pakistani and Indian women cannot think for themselves, are pushovers, and because they are desperate to marry, easy also.
But we know that is not true, don't we?
Everyone, enjoy your day...
^ Catty,foot and mouth disease?
Oh my word, I’m so sorry! I don’t know what I was thinking or what sort of strange mood I was in. It’s not like me at all, I have white friends, I’ve grown up with whites and I don’t disrespect them in any way. What I said could be applied to anyone of any race.
Hope you guys accept my apologies. 
Oye, comeon we know you. You did not mean it in that way it just came out wrong.
Awwwww, sorry
Just responding to where the thread lead, nothing personal
I always like the things you write…
Happy to be of some help :D
sometimes it is step_up and leave.
the guy may not be a shy nor would he tend to be one,
but he misses the motherly affection and wants to be pampered all the times whether he is right or wrong. case sensitive!
for this he may pretend to be ""18 "" year-old-kid.
in other words the frogs wants to be kissed by the princess because there's a fly on her nose! (not to become a prince)
all the luck and Best Wishes GALS!