I know…I’ve got two projects to work on and I’ve delayed them for too long.
I know...I've got two projects to work on and I've delayed them for too long.
abb jab ap dono nay Eid-hug ker leya hai...now give me some eidi and go and do u work.
perho ge nahi to nawab kaisa banoo ge :D
Ha ha!
For my Dad it is like siding between his Mother and his wife. So on one side he has to please his sister and on the other his wife.
Dad was very emotional to be truthful. But I am worried for him as he really seemed so down in the morning. He told us Phophoo phoned him, then he went to work.
You're the oldest and wisest. Tell your dad that a wife and a sister are two different relationships and that they both CAN'T be compared and they both can't be replaced. Each person has their own unique place in the family. Tell this to your dad and tell him to tell it to Phoopo.
abb jab ap dono nay Eid-hug ker leya hai...now give me some eidi and go and do u work.
perho ge nahi to nawab kaisa banoo ge :D
Aaj kal to corruption ka rewaj hai, koi bhi nawab ban sakta hai....parha likha...ya unparh.
Job ho gi...to paisay milain gay...paisay hongay...to Eidi doon gi. Filhaal k liye mera aashirwad lo aur chanay khao :p
app kia logoon k nawaloon per nazar rekhtay hain? 
ps. some ppl dont have moo, they have choonch 
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Awwwwwwww Missing my Mama :(
chanay ki man-do-man bori doo
You're the oldest and wisest. Tell your dad that a wife and a sister are two different relationships and that they both CAN'T be compared and they both can't be replaced. Each person has their own unique place in the family. Tell this to your dad and tell him to tell it to Phoopo.
There is no changing Phophoo and Dad knows this too well. But forget her yaar, we have started a new chapter and I am going shopping with Ammie in a little while!
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You guys were great mashAllah, it takes a strong person to accept mistakes, stronger to apologise and strongest to do it in front of others. Wish you and your family well. This is such a beautiful experience it truly accentuates the virtue of patience.
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KC...so proud of you right now...you go girl! You made your mother very proud of you!
KC...so proud of you right now...you go girl! You made your mother very proud of you!
Thanks everyone. PSquarded, yaar you just brought tears to my eyes! I know Mum would be really happy that we have started calling our step mom Ammie.
:) :)
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And i cried again and i’m soo happy for you!
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KC, well done yaar, well done!
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btw has your puphoo or your dad said anything to you about the dinner?
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:halo:
guess I need to read part 1 of this thread.
btw has your puphoo or your dad said anything to you about the dinner?
Yes she has!!!! I know Phophoo’s temperament and that she couldn’t have held in her feelings for very long. I got a phone call from her today and I believe I have permanently lost my hearing in one ear! But one side of me still loves and respects her, as I cannot hate anyone, so I just remained quiet as there would have been no point talking. We never did this to hurt Phophoo or seek revenge in anyway.
We want to enjoy this time with Ammie, as it’s her time now, long over due really. I really believe Dad is so overjoyed at our bold move last night and tonight we are all going out to eat! We have a lot of lost time to make up for. Ammie rang me up like 5 times today and it felt so sisterly and fun!
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Hey KC. Just wanted to say that I think you've done an amazing thing.
I was waiting to hear how it all turned out too and my best wishes were with you. Like a few others, I ignored your first thread for a while thinking it would be something negative but I was really glad I read it in the end. I think it's very bold that you did it so publicly, I wasn't expecting that but I think it was a great idea, shows solidarity and sends out a message. I'm sure your ammie really appreciated that too, you could have just made up with her and kept it secret but you guys didn't :)
I pray that your dad's family don't try and cause too many problems for you. My phupoo's sound exactly the same as yours and my father is the youngest sibling. They were like mothers to him too - he's always respectful and doesn't fight with them (like his brothers do) but he doesn't take any of their BS either.
Your dad doesn't need to start anything with her but he shouldn't take it too. Have a talk with him and tell him that next when she phones he should just let it in one ear and out the other. When she's done he should just be like 'She is the mother of ALL my children and she deserves their respect.' And end it there.
I have opened up another step mom thread, as the other one has taken a completely different turn! (Even though it was all very hilarious! Thank you RV and gr8pain for the entertainment!)
I wanted to inform you of what happened yesterday because you were all so incredibly amazing and encouraging. I took all your advises positively.
This plan was only known between us siblings. Yesterday we decorated the roof using table and chairs. We grabbed plant pots from the garden and took them up to the roof! We decorated the table with fabric, candles and lots of flowers around, all prearranged by my brothers. We wanted the surrounding to feel really reassuring and cosy for my step mom.
We invited almost every family member we could including my step mum’s family. We set up tables, chairs, fans etc in the lawn. Over 100 ppl came. My bro's arranged the food etc. Each person incessantly asked what the occasion was. We said we would announce it in the end. Phophoo wasn’t please with this as she isn’t an enthusiast of surprises.
While the guests were downstairs, my siblings and I approached my step mom and asked her to come upstairs. She was hesitant but came up the roof with us. When she saw all the candles, flowers and arrangement she was baffled. We sat her down and we told her how apologetic we were. We couldn’t hold our tears in! Then my bro' bought out some flowers for her. We used to call our Mum, ‘Mama’ and asked her if she would allow us then to call her, ‘Ammie.’ She deserved to be called Ammie. We knew so well that she would be so forgiving which made us feel so much more worse. More tears followed! Then we presented her with beautiful gold bangles and a gold ring with 'Ammie' engraved inside, which we all bought together the day before, just as we would have done had it been our Mama. I just cannot describe the moment but believe you me it was the most emotional time..
We took Ammie downstairs and everyone was wondering what had happened. We all had dinner and each person noticed Ammie’s new jewellery, which got people talking instantly. Phophoo was quiet and her face resembled a hard rock. No one spoke to our Ammie or approached her except her side of the fam'. However, we siblings remained by her side the whole time.
After dinner, my bro's bought out the cake and announced that this dinner was for our Ammie. We hugged her, helped her cut the cake and my bro' made the most beautiful speech about her. They said it was time for us all to welcome her into this fam' as she was nothing but an Angel. Ammie was finding it all too much of a shock to her.
My fam' was traumatized and no one shared in our happiness. It was very offensive but completely expected. After the cake was cut, I felt Phophoo’s dagger eyes on me. She stood staring at me for ages. I saw her leave straight after. Some individuals refuse to change. We beg Allah swt to forgive us for our terrible mistakes so why do we humans find it so hard to forgive each other?
It felt like a new beginning had taken place and it was the happiest day for us. It wasn’t easy to do and I had butterflies all day inside.
Thank you everyone once again for your encouragement.
dats really amazing..
all weldone.. mashaAllah..
Allah nazr e badd se bachaye.. aameen.. :)
the explanation itself was really emotional n brought tears in my eyes.. the real incident must have been amazing.. very well done