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ghar ke Kharche meN se bachaa liyaa kareN jaise India meN aurteN/biwiyaaN bachaatii haiN … yeh unkii ‘net savings’ hotii haiN…
Hisaab aise likh ke dikhaa diyaa kareN:
- kapRe kii dhulaaii Rs. 100
- Dhobi ko Rs. 100
- Doodh Rs. 200
- Doodhwaale ko Rs. 200
- baal kaTvaaii Rs. 100
- Naayii ko Rs. 100
Kkf have you ever realized that op might be stressed , worried about her situation. Everything is a joke to you.
Proto, why not give him the bills? Why not stop paying for his family's gifts. And stop eating out, if kids says we wanna go out tell them to ask dad for money.
Do you guys not have a joint account ?
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Not funny. Automne is right, not everything needs to be made into a joke.
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bills and schools fees are his responsibility, you make sure he pays them no matter what.
I am sorry for your situation. 
by the way I am wondering if all Pakistani men especially living in Pakistan have this mentality or what? This is not the first time, I am hearing this about a Pakistani man living in Pakistan.
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it is in the air Lusi :(
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Dpn't tell him how much you're earning.
Unfortunately for you, he isn't going to change, he's just one of those type that won't do kharcha.
Can you take a couple of notes out of his wallet? I do that when i need to, as long as you're not spending it wrongly, you shouldn't feel guilty about it.
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story of my life*:(
i think hamne start mein hi itna sakoon de diya now our husbands have become pakke dheet. Even if i ask my daughter to go and ask your father to take you out she return to me mama aapke sath jana hai urghhhhhhhhh
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I think these kind of men keep track of every cent they have so even if OP takes some money out, wouldn't he know?
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tch that has got to be frustrating.
what on earth is he going to do with the money not spent on family needs? Does it not bother him that you are essentially paying for more then half of all expenses?
Is he religious … perhaps a deeni example will work?
I didnt know this was a common thing in pk 
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^ zyada se zyada aik aur laraii hee ho jayegi na 
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My hubby is like that too in some ways. Sometimes i think about taking money from his wallet but he rarely ever has cash. Plus, he counts the amount he has.
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Is this common in Pakistan?!
Do you have a rough estimate of how much he earns and if this should be enough to cover all your expenses? Is it possible that he may just not have the money? Or is he spending money that should be going to your household expenses on other things?
I can only imagine how insecure you must feel in this situation. I would suggest that you come up with a plan for saving and investing for your future because you clearly cannot depend on your husband. Create a new budget for yourself knowing that you may have to pay for kids college etc. in the future. It may require partially cutting back on eating out, entertainment, and gift-giving but at least you'll have the peace of mind that you can support yourself and your kids if need be. And if you really want to give gifts to his family scale back based on what you alone can afford based on you new budget. If they ask just be honest and tell them your husband told you that you can't afford more.
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LOL!
I donno proto … somehow I cant imagine you being able to pull off a chori 
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neither can I buss kehnay ki baatayn hain
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Lusi, sadly a lot of pakistani men are raised by their 'PARENTS' with the idea that only naan nafqa is the responsibility of men. And most families will tell the woman to get out if she doesn't like her situation. And if you fight on deeni grounds then the answer that is given is that consider yourself that you are even married. There are tons of women sitting at home who would love to be in your position so either live with it or take a divorce.
Now proto this is what I would do if I were in your place. I would very humbly tell my mil and sil that I love that they give me gifts but due to the loadshedding situation of pakistan my business has been affected. I can't meet deadlines so I won't be able to pay back their generosity other than in duaas. Men and women are libaas of each other, I am not the only one who needs to make sure my husband is respected in all circles, he needs to take care of me as well.
Now to the point of ghar kaa kharcha, if the mutton is over, cook chicken, if chicken is over. Make veggies, if veggies are over then make the daals that are in stock. Keep going till he brings the grocery or gives you the money. No fights, no telling him ahead of time. If he eats out himself, let him. You feed yourself and your kids with what is in the home.
And tell him the same thing your business is not doing great coz customers are upset or whatever. If you steal he might get more upset with you.
Rest all of our prayers are with you and other women in this same situation. May Allah help us raise good muslim men. Aameen.
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So he can clearly afford it but won't?! May Allah(SWT) reward for your patience!
What disturbed me even more then the money situation is that it seems like you and your children never really spend any quality time with your husband. Does he want to have a relationship with his children? Is there some family emergency that requires him to be out of town every weekend? Does he ever take you and/or the kids with him? I understand being a good son/brother....